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4 ways to become the woman everyone wants to be friends with
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There are too many women who destroy each other. Learn how to be the opposite. - photo by Valerie Steimle
Why do some women want to bring other women down?

Everyone has green-with-envy moments; but, to take it further by purposely hurting another is unbelievably cruel.

Sometimes, without realizing it, you may in fact be part of the group of women who destroy other women. Ask yourself,

  • Am I the kind who gets in between good friends and starts arguments?
  • Am I drawn to drama and catfighting?
  • Do I target women at church with cruel and judgmental comments?
  • Do I knowingly spread lies about other women and ruin reputations?
  • Do I flirt with other womens husbands to steal affection away?
  • Do I blame other women close to me for problems I've caused?
If the answer is yes to these and any similar questions, then you spend way too much energy destroying others' lives. Be a peacemaker for good, not a creator of trouble.

If you realize you are a women who brings other women down, remember: It is not too late. Bad behavior begins to stop as soon as good behavior starts. And by following principles of repentance, we can all begin anew.

So, do you want to become a woman who encourages other women?

Here are 4 life-changing ways to become a woman who everyone wants to be friends with.

1. Recognize the bad behavior in yourself which can emotionally and mentally cripple another human being.

2. Forgive yourself of past bad behaviors and consciously do the opposite of what you have done to hurt others.

3. Find a good therapist or friend whom you trust and get rid of the darkness and hurt you feel.

4. Learn that true loyalty is earned through good friendships and kindness, not gossip and popularity.

Many women cherish their women friends who follow these guidelines. Take it from a few celebrities:

The friends with whom I sat on graduation day have been my friends for life. They are my childrens godparents, the people to whom Ive been able to turn in times of trouble." J.K. Rowling

I still have friends from primary school. And my two best girlfriends are from secondary school. I dont have to explain anything to them. I dont have to apologize for anything. They know. Theres no judgment in any way. Emma Watson

"I don't know what I would have done so many times in my life if I hadn't had my girlfriends. They have literally gotten me up out of bed, taken my clothes off, put me in the shower, dressed me, said, 'Hey, you can do this,' put my high heels on and pushed me out the door!" Reese Witherspoon

These women's friends have helped them through thick and thin. Margaret Nadauld, leader of a global religious young womens organization, said,

Women of God can never be like women of the world. The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity.

Know that we are all loved children of God. Our world will be a much happier place when we treat each other as sisters, instead of enemies, and when we stick together.

Oh sister, my sister, our cruelty is done.
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Have You Seen This? Street musician slays with clarinet
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Better than almost every face-melting guitar or drum solo. - photo by Facebook video screenshot

THE BIG EASY — Yeah, yeah, we all know that New Orleans is stuffed to the gills will incredible musicians.

But knowing that fact and then hearing that fact are two different things. You can step into any number of jazz clubs on any given night on Bourbon Street, and you’ll probably be impressed with virtually every act. Or you can sit at home on your comfy couch and watch this featured video.

In the video, you’ll see a woman who is in the groove. She is swinging hard, and wailing on her clarinet with a practiced expertise that makes it sounds so easy.

From note one you’ll be drawn in; your appreciation will grow with every second, and then your face will melt off when you realize how incredible she really is.

If you’ve never played a woodwind or a brass, you may not know everything that comes with a performance like this. Lung capacity and breath control are huge factors in keeping your notes clear and loud, and hitting those high notes is especially difficult.

So when this woman hits that high note and holds it for several seconds, you know you’re dealing with an exceptional musician. It means she has worked hard for years to develop skill on top of her natural talent, and we get to benefit.

It kinda makes you wonder how we let people get away with mumble rap and autotune when talent like this exists in the world.

I wish this video were longer, and I wish I had more information about this woman, but as it is, we’ll just have to appreciate the little flavor of New Orleans jazz posted by the Facebook group Clarinet Life.

Street musician killing it on clarinet

She must have lungs of iron! Its inspiring hearing the upper registers being played so well.

Posted by Clarinet Life on Tuesday, December 11, 2018

Martha Ostergar is a writer who delights in the ridiculous that internet serves up, which means she's more than grateful that she gets to cruise the web for amazing videos to highlight for your viewing pleasure.
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