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6 signs youre a better mom than your own mother
Your mother may have tried to do her best. But here are 6 signs youre doing even better with your kids. - photo by Georgia Lee
Whether your mother did her best for you or skipped out on her responsibilities, you want to make sure your kids are getting everything they need. But with video games, smartphones and evermore immersive entertainment taking up so much of their lives, how do you know if youre doing a good job?

Here are six signs youre actually a better mother than your own mom:

1. Your kids dont crave your attention

Youre doing a great job if your children are not starved for love, affection or positive attention. When your kids needs are satisfied, they wont act out with attention seeking behavior. On the positive end, a love hungry child may be clingy, pestering and insecure. On the negative side, a child who isnt getting enough emotional support can be rebellious, angry and depressed.

If your kids seem happy and youre giving ample hugs, kisses, good jobs and I love yous, youre doing good.

2. Your kids dont reject your attention

As a part of healthy development, adolescents and teens need to break away from their mothers emotional crowding once they begin to blossom into adults. But youll know youre doing a good job when things go bad in your teens life and they come running right back to you for help. Very young kids wont cower when you come their way if you give them enough space to breathe and be themselves. Something your mom may not have given you. Teens wont keep as many secrets if theyre allowed enough room to come to you.

3. You feel invited into your childs life

Similarly, when things are going well, a well-adjusted child will make you a part of their world. Youll feel welcome and invited into the life theyre creating for themselves. If you intrude and force yourself into your childs personal space, youll be met with resistance. If the relationship feel smooth and comfortable, good going!

4. Your kids feel emotionally and physically safe with you

Safety is a big issue for growing brains. If your kids dont feel safe with you or in your home, it can negatively affect every relationship thereafter. If your kids are comfortable sharing their intimate feelings and secrets with you, your emotional safety is good. If they enjoy sharing space with you and dont tense up, shut down or shy away when you come near, keep up the good work.

5. Your kids are not worried about adult things

Good mothers let their kids be kids. They dont know or understand financial failings, infidelity, addiction or other adult concerns. You may not be able to shield them from the reality of losing a job, losing a home, disease, death or imprisonment of a parent. But you can do your best to assure them that you have things under control and have the power to fix it. Dont let them think they are the cause of or solution to any adult problem, and youll be well on your way to good motherhood.

6. Your kids feel special and wanted

A great mom knows her love, attention and positive reinforcement helps her kids feel important and secure. Youre doing well if your child feels the dedication, protection and concern you didnt necessarily feel as a kid. No matter how busy the week was or whats going on in your marriage, feel good about your abilities if you make time to show each of your kids how blessed you are to have them.

You may not have had the perfect childhood. And even now your relationship with your mother may be strained. Unanswered questions and unresolved issues could be plaguing your mind. Dont let bad memories and clouded thinking keep you from realizing how your mothering skills have improved in just one generation. If youre kids are thriving in your home and feel secure and special, rest assured youre A-OK!
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