If cancer was a fish, Tiffany Berg Coughran and her five kids would definitely throw it back.
Thats the visual Coughran conjured up several years ago when her husband, Paul Berg, was diagnosed with oral cancer.
It became a short story, illustrated with clip art, that she wrote for her nieces and nephews and later shared with her own children.
The thing that was so hard in our home is that it was so quiet at that time, Coughran said. The kids werent really talking anymore, and it was very somber around our house and I really wanted them to be able to share what was going on. I was afraid because they werent talking.
When we heard it was terminal I just shut everything out because I didnt believe he would ever be gone, said her daughter, Hayley Hardy. Even after he passed I didnt believe it. I just told myself he was on vacation. Hed come back.
(Mom) was always trying to get us to talk about it because she knew thats what we needed.
After Paul Berg died in 2009, Coughran published the book, If Cancer Was A Fish, Id Throw It Back. In the story, a boy imagines cancer is a fish and throws it back, imagines cancer is a spider and smashes it, and imagines cancer is calling on the phone and ignores the call.
The message, she says, is that children, faced with catastrophic illness, are allowed to get upset and express their emotions.
We tell them You need to be nice. You need to be a nice person. It's not OK to hate people. Its not OK to be angry and really when it comes to cancer I think it's OK to be angry, she says. The goal of the book is to just say it's OK. On any given day you could be feeling a variety of things and you're still OK.
Thats the visual Coughran conjured up several years ago when her husband, Paul Berg, was diagnosed with oral cancer.
It became a short story, illustrated with clip art, that she wrote for her nieces and nephews and later shared with her own children.
The thing that was so hard in our home is that it was so quiet at that time, Coughran said. The kids werent really talking anymore, and it was very somber around our house and I really wanted them to be able to share what was going on. I was afraid because they werent talking.
When we heard it was terminal I just shut everything out because I didnt believe he would ever be gone, said her daughter, Hayley Hardy. Even after he passed I didnt believe it. I just told myself he was on vacation. Hed come back.
(Mom) was always trying to get us to talk about it because she knew thats what we needed.
After Paul Berg died in 2009, Coughran published the book, If Cancer Was A Fish, Id Throw It Back. In the story, a boy imagines cancer is a fish and throws it back, imagines cancer is a spider and smashes it, and imagines cancer is calling on the phone and ignores the call.
The message, she says, is that children, faced with catastrophic illness, are allowed to get upset and express their emotions.
We tell them You need to be nice. You need to be a nice person. It's not OK to hate people. Its not OK to be angry and really when it comes to cancer I think it's OK to be angry, she says. The goal of the book is to just say it's OK. On any given day you could be feeling a variety of things and you're still OK.