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What the HESK? 4 secrets to family money mastery
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Parents often feel like they dont know how to teach kids about money. Recognizing how Habits, Executive Function, Skills and Knowledge apply to learning about money can help pass on money mastery to your kids. - photo by Don Milne
How do you determine the secret to money mastery? If you are the Consumer Financial Protection Bureau (CFPB) with an annual budget of more than $600 million a year, you do the research and release a 65 page report with the name Building blocks to help youth achieve financial capability. Based on this report, with the right help, your kids could become masters of the money universe.

The four-year-old who cant keep his nose clean? They could one day clean up in the stock market.

The eight-year-old who cant multiply? One day they could be a multi-millionaire.

The fourteen-year-old who cant save enough cash to buy a cat? They could one day save enough cash to buy a car.

What the heck, you say? No, what the HESK.

Here is what research shows are the building blocks of financial capability. Think H-E-S-K to remember what these building blocks include:

1. Habits

Good money habits will result in beneficial results like savings. Bad money habits can lead from one financial disaster to another.

2. Executive function

This is a fancy way to categorize self-control, working memory and problem solving. You need this to focus beyond the present. You need this to persevere and react flexibly when encountering road blocks. And you need this to recognize the importance of planning and goal setting.

3. Skills

Basic financial skills, like how to budget or comparison shop, are critical to making wise financial decisions

4. Knowledge

Knowing how interest works, what investments are, why insurance is important and other financial topics help people avoid costly financial mistakes.

However, dont expect your preschooler to become a mini Elon Musk. It takes time to develop money mastery. The CFPB report divides the path to financial capability into three age ranges: early childhood (ages 3-5), middle childhood (ages 6-12), and adolescence and young adulthood (ages 13-21).

The youngest age group is a good time to focus on the E in HESK executive function. One of the best ways to do this is to read books that model the results we want to see. There are a number of fairy tale stories that teach problem solving that can be related to money, such as The Ant in the Grasshopper and The Little Red Hen. Youre supposed to be reading to your kids anyway, so why not read books that will develop executive function?

The middle childhood age is a good time to focus on the H in HESK habits. At this age children can be encouraged to become frugal, rather than spendthrift. They can start saving money for the future and recognize that delayed gratification allows us to buy things later that we cant buy now if we always spend money as soon as we get it.

The last pieces of the recipe for success, that are ideal subjects for adolescence and young adulthood, are the S and K in HESK skills and knowledge. You only have to read everyday stories about how many people are deep in credit card debt or have inadequate retirement savings to recognize that too many adults fail to acquire the skills and knowledge that would help them make better choices sooner. Big surprise: new adults make dumb money mistakes. Fortunately, some states have required a financial literacy course that must be completed to graduate from high school. Thats a great help (assuming students pay attention!).

You dont have to just leave it up to the schools. The popular online learning website Khan Academy created the Better Money Habits website with the great kind of self-learning lessons Khan Academy is known for. The highly influential nonprofit Commonwealth (previously known as D2D Fund) knows that many young people love playing video games so they created award winning online games that focus on financial skills and knowledge.

Being a parent is a challenge and its no wonder we often feel like we dont know what the heck we are doing. Hopefully, recognizing how Habits, Executive Function, Skills and Knowledge apply to learning about money can help you at least feel better prepared in the area of pointing your children on the path to money mastery.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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