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Teens are using a popular friend app that's fun until they discover the highly inappropriate content
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Rising app FriendO lets you find out more about your friends and see which of your friends know you best. It's interesting, except some of the questions available to ask (and some of the answer options) are for mature eyes only. - photo by Amy Iverson
The idea of gamifying friendships is all the rage when it comes to teens, preteens and their phones. Its not enough to text their friends (and heaven forbid they would actually call and talk with them). Now friendship is a competition.

A new app makes it a game to find out which of your friends knows you the best and to find out what they think of you. FriendO is quickly climbing the app store charts, claiming players can use it to find out who their real friends are.

Sign in with an email and phone number and use your contacts to find friends. You play one-on-one with other users by taking turns answering questions about yourself and then seeing if your friend guesses your answers correctly.

Then its your friend's turn to answer a question about themselves so you can try to guess their answer. As you guess correctly, you move up on their leaderboard, to supposedly show you are a "real friend." This is not anonymous like a similar app Ive previously reviewed called tbh. Its a back-and-forth with a lot of known friends, one at a time.

My daughter and her high school friends have been using this app for about a week and are quickly tiring of it. But others are just getting started. CBS New York reports FriendO says of the half-million downloads this month, 84 percent come from middle schoolers.

Heres where a potential problem pops up. On iTunes, it says you must be at least 17 years old to purchase this app, citing possible offensive language, violence, suggestive themes, sexual content, nudity, alcohol, tobacco and drugs. It's not quite the innocent app a parent would like their middle schooler to use, so be careful.

Users pick a category for a question, ranging from "My Personality" to "What I Wear" to "What I Believe." Most of the questions are pretty shallow, but some are serious and even political. One question option asked, If you were President, which Super Power would you be most afraid of? The options included North Korea and Russia.

FriendO says these categories will be ever-changing, and the most popular ones are locked (users must invite three other people to play the app to get the categories unlocked). There have definitely been some R-rated categories that seem to come and go.

One was a so-called "Dirty" category with all variations of sexual questions. In the iTunes comment section for this app, reviewer after reviewer is lamenting that the "Dirty" category has gone away for now. Many of the commenters are saying it was the best category and are begging for it to return.

Mashable also reports on a former category called "MSFK" short for marry, sex, friend, kill that asked users which theyd rather do with a celebrity. Right now on FriendO, there is a category called "Flirty," asking questions like if you kiss on the first date.

Another category includes normal questions like What time do you get up in the morning? But along with answers like "7:00 a.m." and "10:00 a.m.," one of the answer options will always include a profanity.

There are some good safety features on this app, including the option of blocking people, ignoring requests from strangers to play and the option to turn off location services. But parents should know there is direct messaging, so kids should only play with people they actually know.

Even if a stranger tried to add you, they will not be able to send a private message unless you accept their game request. Also, remind your teens that anyone can view their profile pic on this app. So, as always, make sure there are no identifying giveaways on profile pictures, like school names or addresses.

Overall, FriendO is a fun time-waster to get to know quirky facts about your friends. There is the possibility of inappropriate content, but only if your teen goes seeking it. Play along with your kids and be aware of what types of questions they are asking and answering.

You just might find out something you never knew about your teenager, such as whether they are willing to kiss on the first date. With answer options like "Yes, maybe more" and "No, too soon," you can only hope they answer the latter. But what a perfect starter for a great conversation as you tuck them in tonight.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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