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Santa cant get you that special gift this year, so hes sending apology letters
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Parents hope they can make their childs holidays happier this year by sending apology letters from Santa Claus. - photo by Herb Scribner
Santa is so sorry he cant get you that special gift. So, to make up for it, hes sending you an apology letter.

With the 2016 holiday season kicking off this past weekend, many American families found themselves without a certain toy to give their child the Hatchimal, the hottest toy of this years holiday season that will almost be impossible to find.

It was so impossible to find, in fact, that parents want their children to know ahead of time that they wont see it under the tree this Christmas.

Rather than risk disappointing their child if they cant find a Hatchimal before Dec. 25, theyre preempting their kids Christmas morning tempter tantrum with a written apology letter from Santa Claus, according to Scary Mommy, a parenting news website.

Here's what the letter looks like.

But thats not the only version. Theres this one, too.

Megan Zander, the writer of the Scary Mommy article, said that a Santa apology letter can serve as a teaching moment to young children that they wont always receive the gift they want for Christmas.

As parents we want to make our kids happy, but its unrealistic to think that well always be able to get them every item on their Christmas list, even if its something that all the other kids are excited over too, Zander wrote. This year its a Hatchimal but what about when they want the new iPhone thats on back order for months? Or a gaming system thats way out of budget, even if it is in stock? Learning that you dont always get what you want is a part of life, even around the holidays.

But the apology letters aren't the only letters from Santa that parents are embracing this year. According to the Huffington Post, parents can get their child a letter that's postmarked from the North Pole.

All you have to do is let your child write a letter to Santa and put it in an envelope. Open the letter later and write your own response from Santa to your child. The U.S. Postal Service recommends being as specific as possible, mentioning your child's responses if you can, according to the Huffington Post.

Add some postage, a North Pole return address and send it here:

North Pole Postmark

Postmaster 4141

Postmark Drive

Anchorage, AK 99530-9998

Your child will soon receive the letter returned with a North Pole postmark.

Though these letters are fun and filled with holiday spirit, recent research suggests that the Santa Claus myth could create problems in the home, especially when a youngster discovers the truth.

Psychologist Christopher Boyle and mental health researcher Kathy McKay released a study this week that showed that parents may be harming their children by perpetuating the myth of Santa Claus.

The researchers said children's trust in their parents may suffer if they learn the truth about Saint Nick.

"If they are capable of lying about something so special and magical, can they be relied upon to continue as the guardians of wisdom and truth?" they write.

Boyle said that the Father Christmas tale may also bend a childs idea of morality, making them think its OK to make up myths.

"All children will eventually find out they've been consistently lied to for years, and this might make them wonder what other lies they've been told," Boyle said. Whether it's right to make children believe in Father Christmas is an interesting question, and it's also interesting to ask whether lying in this way will affect children in ways that have not been considered."

But those issues don't always rise up since Santa isn't the only myth children hear about, according to PBS. Children live in a fantasy land for four or five years, so its not like this one lie is going to ruin their lives forever.

It helps, too, that Santa Claus is a benevolent hero. So when parents perpetuate the myth, they're teaching their children about the value of being kind, according to an article published by PBS Parents.

Every culture has a fairy tale or myth that belongs to its historical identity, Dr. Benjamin Siegel, professor of pediatrics and psychiatry at the Boston University School of Medicine, told PBS. If the myths are good and talk about sharing and helping your neighbor, then thats really nice.

When children do find out about Santa Claus, its important that parents talk with their youngsters about their frustrations. Siegel said parents should encourage their child to remember the happy memories associated with the jolly old gift giver.

Children should also have the opportunity to define what Santa Claus means to them, according to PBS. They may surprise parents when they reveal that they knew all along, but still had fun playing along with the game."
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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