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How to tell if your teen or you are addicted to video games
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A group of scientists is now classifying gaming disorder as a mental illness. Learn about the symptoms and ways you can teach your kids to avoid addiction. - photo by Amy Iverson
As you wind down from a fun holiday season, count the number of gadgets, games and gaming accessories that were under your tree. Were you one of the many who bought the latest gaming console or game for someone this Christmas?

Well then, you are contributing to the downfall of the mental health of America. OK, not necessarily, but a decision by the World Health Organization should give you some food for thought anyway.

Next year, for the first time ever, the WHO will add "gaming disorder" to its International Classification of Diseases.

What are the symptoms? The WHOs rough draft description mentions video gamers who cant seem to control how often or how long they play. It also talks about those who want to play video games to the point that it takes priority over other life interests and daily activities.

The final point describes people who continue excessive video gaming, even after theyve suffered negative consequences because of it. The WHOs recommendation to doctors and other health care workers is to look for this pattern over at least 12 months to diagnose gaming disorder, but that it could take less time if the symptoms are severe.

While you may envision teenage boys as the only ones holed up in their basements playing games like Call of Duty, youd be wrong. Yes, young men do make up a huge share of those who play video games in the United States, but many others are getting their game on too.

A recent Pew Research Center survey shows 72 percent of men ages 18-29 play video games, but so do 49 percent of women in that same age group. And while many believe it is only unemployed boomerang kids playing video games, the research also shows that adults with jobs play nearly as much as those without a paycheck.

So is video gaming all bad? Of course not. Plenty of people play video games and are perfectly normal, functioning adults. In fact, Newsweek reports a small study out of the University of Montreal shows that playing video games can be beneficial for older adults.

In this study, some participants took piano lessons, some played Super Mario 64, and some did nothing. After having MRI scans and taking performance tests, researchers found only those who played on the Nintendo gained more gray matter in their brains. While learning to play with Mario, these older adults showed signs of improved memory.

The American Psychiatric Association does not yet identify gaming addiction as a mental disorder. In fact, earlier this year, a study reported in the American Journal of Psychiatry found that most video gamers say they do not have any symptoms of gaming disorder.

The study concluded that the percentage of people who might qualify for the disorder is extremely small. A psychology professor at Villanova University, Patrick M. Markey, Ph.D., commented on the study, saying, video game addiction might be a real thing, but it is not the epidemic that some have made it out to be.

This just takes common sense. Can video games become addictive? Of course, just like anything else. We need to be smart as parents to teach our kids correct screen time limits as they grow so they are more able to have self-control when they become adults.

The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests no screen time for children under 18 months. For toddlers 18-24 months, it encourages high-quality programming that parents watch with and explain to their children. The group suggests the same for kids ages 2 to 5, and recommends no more than one hour of screen time per day.

For children ages 6 and older, make sure screen time doesnt take the place of other important things like sleep and physical activity. Theres even a great way to help you create a family media plan here.

Happy New Year. Lets tackle 2018 with the right tools and knowledge to keep our kids safe online. Im here to help.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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