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How American families are keeping in contact with loved ones after the Paris shootings
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On Friday, a series of shootings across the city of Paris left more than 120 people dead and 99 more critically injured, according to BuzzFeed News. - photo by Herb Scribner
On Friday, a series of shootings across the city of Paris left more than 120 people dead and 99 more critically injured, according to BuzzFeed News.

The shootings occurred at a variety of restaurants and social venues throughout the city specifically, outside the Le Carillon bar and the Le Petit Cambodge restaurant, on the terrace of the La Casa Rostra pizzeria, on 90 Rue Charonne, outside Stade de France during a soccer match between France and Germany, at the Les Halles shopping mall, and outside the Bataclan concert hall the scene where more than 100 people were killed. BBC reported.

Late Friday, French President Francois Hollande declared a state of emergency and closed the countrys borders, BBC reported.

As of Saturday morning, all the assailants of the attacks have been killed, according to Hollande, who called the attacks an act of war carried out by the extremist militant group Islamic State, BBC reported.

These attacks come just months after 11 people were killed at Charlie Hebdo magazine in Paris, BuzzFeed reported.

In the immediate moments following Friday's shootings, many families found their loved ones were safe through social media, specifically Facebook, which launched its Safety Check tool Friday night for people in Paris to notify their friends and family members that they were safe from danger, according to CNN.

The Safety Check tool, first launched in 2014, has only been used five times for natural disasters. It pinpoints a user's location and allows them to check-in and send a notification to people in their feed that they are safe.

"We are shocked and saddened by the events unfolding in Paris. Communication is critical in these moments both for people there and for their friends and families anxious for news," Facebook said in a statement, according to CNN. People turn to Facebook to check on loved ones and get updates which is why we created Safety Check and why we have activated it today for people in Paris.

Facebook will continue to allow family members to find their loved ones in Paris through this feature, CNN reported.

Other concerned family members can also call the U.S. Embassy in Paris if theyre unsure about a family member or friend's safety, according to NBC New York. The embassy is also working to locate any missing Americans.

Families across the United States from Texas to New Jersey to Arizona who have found their loved ones after the attacks have stayed in constant contact through social media and technological devices.

Katherine Spinks, of North Texas, said her daughter lives in Paris and was eating at a restaurant when the attacks began, immediately raising concern, according to NBC-DFW.

"I had just walked in from work," Spinks told NBC-DFW. It was about 4 p.m., and I turned on the news, and I saw it was all about Paris, and immediately I was concerned."

Spinks said her daughter heard and saw gunfire from one of the assailants, but she and her friends were unsure about what was going on, NBC-DFW reported. The Texas mother said shed stay in close contact with her daughter this weekend.

Tara Brahmi, also of Texas, told NBC-DFW that she has friends and family in Paris shes keeping in contact with through her smartphone.

"It's heartbreaking to know that I have family there," Brahmi told NBC-DFW. "Honestly, I heard first from the station that this was going on. It's bothersome. It's worrying, calling over to make sure my family is OK and all accounted for."

Families in Arizona have used social media to stay in contact with their loved ones, too, according to ABC-15. Jeff Vinton is an Arizona native whos doing an exchange program in Ireland and recently traveled to Paris with his friends. Vinton had just toured some of the sights where the shootings occurred when he heard the news, ABC reported.

Since then, hes been in constant contact with his family through social media.

Similarly, the Tonioli family in Arizona used FaceTime to talk with an exchange student who lived with them earlier this year, ABC-15 reported. They also shared concerns with the students brother, who was out Friday night and had been close to the concert hall shootings, according to ABC-15.

Were scared for them; were praying for them, Elyse Tonioli said of her Paris loved ones. Theyre nervous; its probably like how 9/11 was for us; theyre just concerned for their whole country.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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