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6 ways you're making your life harder than it has to be
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These seven ways you're sabotaging your life are totally avoidable. - photo by Melinda Fox
Life has challenges; that's for sure. But sometimes we do things that actually make it more challenging. Here are seven things you are probably doing now that are making your life harder than it needs to be.

You look forward to when things get better

While there's so much goodness to be found in having hope for the future, relying on the future to bring happiness is toxic to your life. If you regularly postpone happiness for when you get off work or get married or don't have to deal with some terrible struggle in your life, you are putting off the happiness that you could be experiencing right now. By waiting to be happy, you are ruining your life.

You buy things on sale

Getting a great discount certainly can make your life better, but when you buy something because it's on sale, you're just sabotaging yourself. The reason stores create sales is to urge you to buy something that you wouldn't buy otherwise. This means you are spending your money on something you don't need. Money can be a huge source of stress in people's life; don't fall into the trap of spending it unnecessarily.

You stay up late

Treating every night like New Year's Eve isn't the best way to celebrate life. It can actually wreck it. Studies have shown that going to bed early causes you to worry less, be more productive, maintain a healthy weight, get sick less and have an overall more positive life. With this simple lifestyle change, you can do so much to reduce your life's challenges.

You're impatient

Getting annoyed that the car you're stuck behind isn't moving fast enough doesn't get you anywhere faster; and internally freaking out while your daughter takes 10 minutes to tie one shoe doesn't make the task any quicker. Being impatient with people doesn't do anything to change the situation. It just adds stress and negativity to your life. Choose to not dwell on feelings on impatience.

You care what others think

Does what other people think about your messy house, your shoes or your life choices actually affect your quality of life? Not at all. But you dwelling on what they think (and imagining that they're thinking the worst) definitely can. Give yourself permission to not care about what's going on in other people's heads. It will liberate you and allow you to focus on the more important factor: what's going on in your own head.

You foresee failure

If you keep asking yourself, "What if I can't do it?" you're neglecting the question, "What if I can do it?" Expecting the worst possible outcome of a situation isn't preparing you for the worst as much as it is causing unneeded stress. Focus on the best possible outcome instead.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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