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5 sure signs you are dating a loser
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Your friends aren't going to tell you, but you may be dating a loser. If any of these signs sound familiar, it's time to kick that hot mess to the curb. - photo by Drew Schroeder
For some, it's easy to spot losers. They are the person you date who you think you have a connection with and can see all their faults, but ignore them. Now, everyone has faults, but those aren't the faults I'm talking about. I'm talking about the ones that prevent you from taking this person home to your parents. The ones that can kill a relationship before it starts. The thing about losers, though, is they are easy to spot if you have a trained eye.

Many of my friends have dated absolute losers, and they all had some things in common. Some of my friends didnt notice their girlfriend or boyfriend was a loser until it had to be spelled out for them. So, if youre wondering if the person you or your friend is dating is a loser, see if they have any of these 5 red flags.

Temper, Temper!

Most of the time, people with incredibly bad tempers are losers. There is nothing worse than a grown man or woman throwing the same tantrums as a five year old who doesnt get what he or she wants at the store. If they throw things around, let their temper get the best of them all the time, and are easily enraged by simple things that a grown person should be able to handle, then they arent mature and arent worth your time. They will eventually start taking their temper out on you. Dont waste your time with them. You dont want to have to tell your mother that your significant other is cooling off in the car because you didnt text them back within two minutes.

They Dont Have A Plan.

Many would say that not having a job makes someone a loser, but I disagree. I know plenty of driven and determined people who are between jobs or what they want to do doesnt entail working a nine-to-five. A person can have a job and still be a loser. The key thing is they have to have a plan. If they dont have a job or are stuck in a dead-end one with no plans to get out of the situation or dont care to, then youve found yourself a loser. Any driven and determined person will find out how to get where they want to be. Losers will stay where they are and blame others for their misfortunes.

They attach themselves quickly.

If its been a month and they have already said they love you, they are getting too attached too early. They are just looking for someone to be attached to. These are the desperate dates that are just looking for someone, anyone, to spend time with. Psychologist Joseph M. Carver says, "The Loser" has very shallow emotions and connections with others. They will quickly have feelings for you that could just as quickly fade away.

They Put You Down.

Losers dont want you to know they are losers, so they make you feel like one. They will attempt to put down your dreams because they can't do it themselves, or they will make you feel unattractive so that you think you can't find anyone better. This leads to him or her treating you badly and you thinking you deserve it. Well, you dont. Remember Eleanor Roosevelts fantastic quote, No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

Theyre Super Controlling.

Losers are paranoid and terrified of being broken up with so they will do everything to prevent it, especially if they know you are better than them. They will try to pull you away from your friends and only spend time with them, they will watch your every move, and they will do some rather stalkerish or insecure things so they have control over you. They want to know where you are at all times, who youre with, and they dont want you to go out with friends because, God forbid, you might you have without them. Dont let someone control you. Relationships are meant to be two independent people coming together to take on the world together, not to control one another. If theyre super controlling, they have trust issues and as the famous meme goes, Aint nobody got time for dat.

Losers are all over the place. You may not be able to see it as easily in the beginning, but you will eventually take notice. These tips will allow you to spot losers much faster. Beware, being entangled in a losers web can turn you into one yourself. Dont settle for a loser. Instead, land yourself a champion.

Written by Drew Schroeder for Healthyliving.care.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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