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5 more signs your guy is not over his ex
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Here are 5 more things to look for when you suspect your boyfriend may not be completely free from his former love. - photo by Georgia Lee
Tension can rise to a fever pitch when you think your boyfriend has the hots for a new girl. But dont be so quick to overlook a very real possibility. He may still have feelings for the old one!

When old flames fail to die down, its time to take a good hard look at your man and see the truth behind his suspicious behavior.

Here are 5 more signs your guy hasnt completely axed his ex:

1. Hes still REALLY good friends with her.

Staying friends with an ex is a delicate endeavor.

This tightrope can be fraught with jealousy, insensitivity, and lack of foresight. If hes open and honest about how much time he spends with her, and exactly how close this quality time is, you might be okay; especially if shes moved on, too. But if hes secretive, vague or annoyed at any probing into their friendship, rethink your relationship. He may not be cheating, but he is hiding something.

2. He controls your relationship with her.

If your guy decided to stay friends with his ex and tries to force you two to be friends, or works hard to keep you two away from each other, look out. Hes trying to control the situation because hes afraid he wont be able to control himself.

Letting things evolve naturally would be too risky, so he needs to keep you two far apart or close by all the time so you dont ask questions about the both of them. Its about keeping you secluded or overexposed to ward off suspicion.

3. Youre his rebound.

Be diligent in getting the dish on your guys relevant dating history; especially his most recent breakup. Be cautious of how things began and ended with them.

If he came running to you after she ran out on him, theres a good chance hed run back if she gave him the chance. Dont be the placeholder for who he really wants: the one that got away.

4. He calls you her name.

Watch out for this red flag! Once is a Freudian slip. Twice is a faux paw. Three times and its the green light to get out of there.

5. He HATES her new boyfriend.

No one expects to fall in love with their exs new beau, but if your boyfriend absolutely despises his exs new man there may be some unresolved feelings there- particularly if your guy has no good reason to dislike her new man.

If you see no issues with his exs new choice but he seems ready for a fight at a moments notice, you may have a brewing boxing match on your hands; and they wont be fighting over you.

Sometimes it can be hard to peel apart the layers of a good friendship to find the hidden feelings in these past romances. Theres a fine line between insecure jealousy and sharp observation of real unusual behavior. Maybe youre not just seeing things?

Stay vigilant in your relationship, and confront your issues with composure and respect. You might find things are not as bad as they seem. But at the very worst, youll at least know to always trust your instincts.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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