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Fergie's controversial national anthem and missteps at the Olympics why bullying needs to stop
USA's Shaun White won the Men's Halfpipe Snowboard at the Phoenix Snow Park during day five of the PyeongChang 2018 Winter Olympic Games in South Korea on Wednesday, Feb. 14, 2018. - photo by Carmen Rasmusen Herbert
Why is it that everyone has to be so critical of anyone in the spotlight?

We have been glued to our TV these last few weeks cheering on members of Team USA, watching these phenomenal athletes from our country ride the roller coaster of heartache and triumph. But Ive been appalled at the downright cruel comments that have streamed in over everything from Shaun White dragging the U.S. flag behind him after winning his third gold medal in the mens halfpipe, to the complaints that Nathan Chen let his country down with his short program performance (after which he said screw it and used that setback to launch himself into Olympic history by landing five clean quad jumps during his free skate).

Lindsey Vonns own father said he wasnt thrilled with her bronze medal, saying it reminded him of something that Buddy Werner used to say: theres two places in the race, first and last, and I only want one of them.

But the latest thing in sports that has received massive criticism wasnt at an Olympic event. It was at the NBA All-Star Game, and it was "The Star-Spangled Banner" sung by Fergie.

Trying to do something unique actually came across as risqu, and fans watched and listened with raised eyebrows as the pop singer infused our nations anthem with sultry blue-jazz tones.

"Here's the thing about taking risks when it comes to the national anthem, said TV host Jimmy Kimmel. Don't. Just don't.

Fergie responded to tweets of her performance being the worst rendition ever by releasing a statement that read, I've always been honored and proud to perform the national anthem and last night I wanted to try something special for the NBA. I'm a risk taker artistically, but clearly this rendition didn't strike the intended tone. I love this country and honestly tried my best.

I cant understand how we can sit here and mourn the recent loss of so many innocent lives from a horrible act of violence in Florida and talk about how this world needs more love, more understanding, more connecting, more reaching out and then turn around with internet shame on anyone and everyone who makes a mistake.

Competing on live television and showcasing your talent on a worldwide stage is a ridiculously difficult thing to do. I know Ive done it. Singing arguably one of the most technically difficult songs ever written in front of thousands of people is also a very hard thing to do, especially when its one of the most judged songs. Ive done that, too. (OK one of the most technically difficult songs in my opinion besides Never Enough from The Greatest Showman." That song is just beyond. If I ever meet those writers, I dont know if Id shake their hands and bow down in wonder or slap them upside the head because who can sing that song?!)

Getting criticized for something youre genuinely trying hard to excel at is devastating. Putting yourself out there as an athlete or artist is not easy, especially with eager hands on social media ready to praise or pounce, depending on the note you hit.

Happy, peaceful people who are content with who they are dont need to tear people down, my mom always told me. If they are insulting you, they are feeling angry, inferior or hurt inside.

There are a lot of people feeling angry, inferior or hurt. The answer to being a happy person isnt to spread those feelings around more.

If you dont like the way someone did/sang/wrote/performed something, fine. Expressing your opinion respectively is one thing. Tearing someone down to dirt is another, and its whats causing everyone to have emotional distress and self-doubt. Enough.

If we ever want to dispel this hateful darkness that creeps ever thicker, we need to do more building and less bullying. If someone falls, instead of kicking at them while they're down, let's take a lesson from Scott Hamilton's book and cheer for them to get back up.

He tweeted to Chen: "I respect you. I admire you. I believe in you. Today was a difficult day. Tomorrow is up to you!"
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