There are an infinite number of way that we can express love to our children. Here are a few phrases that I've found are the best ones to use in our homes to uplift our children and strengthen our family ties.
1. "I love you."
Do not go a single day without letting your children hear these words come out of your mouth. Children feel safe knowing that you love them. Difficult days will come. There will be times when they make decisions that may not be the best. Make sure that they know, with certainty, that no matter what decisions they make, you will never stop loving them.
2. "You make me very happy."
This could not be more true! (And every mom and dad knows that no truth is more important.) Children are an inexhaustible source of happiness and love. It is so important that they know this! Don't wait until they graduate or get married to tell them -- just do it today.
3. "You are very special."
It is extremely important that children understand from a young age that they are different, unique, and special. We all went to excel in some way. Set a goal to tell them every day that they are incomparable and the best thing that has ever happened to you.
4. "I like it when you..."
Everyone enjoys knowing what they do that makes other people happy -- especially your children. Take the time to point out any positive aspect about their behavior, character, kindness, talents, funny ideas or school performance.
5. "I believe in you/I trust you"
Our children will grow up feeling secure if they know that we trust and believe in them. Tell them that you trust them and respect their decisions.
6. "Are you able to/I know you can."
Children get easily discouraged when they are trying to do something and it doesn't work out after a couple of tries. As parents, we need to encourage them to keep trying, and let them know that we believe in them.
When you're tired and had a long day, it's easy to be tempted to say something that may harm your children. Remember, kids are a blessing, a miracle, and a light that can illuminate your life every day. Make them feel it and know it well. Every day.