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You're bored, but your spouse isn't around. What do you do?
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Being away from your spouse is never fun, no matter how short of a trip, or how often you've done it. Without your spouse around, you can start to get bored and feel really lonely. The next time you find yourself in. - photo by Amberly Lambertsen
Some couples don't spend a lot of time apart while others spend weeks, months or even years separated for one reason or another. No matter how long you spend apart, without your spouse around, you can start to get bored and feel really lonely.

The next time you find yourself in this predicament, try one of these ten boredom busters:

1. Plan a girls/guys night

You may spend a lot of time with your very best friend, but you have other friends in your life as well. When you know your spouse will be gone, plan to spend some time with them. You could host a party and watch your favorite chick flick or action movie.

You could also plan an afternoon or evening out on the town at your favorite restaurant, bowling alley or shopping center.

2. Do something for yourself

Time alone means you can focus on yourself. Watch your favorite movie, eat your favorite foods, and do something that will benefit only you. Take a long bath, get a pedicure, work on a personal project, etc.

Do something that makes you happy!

3. Put together a surprise for your spouse

Does your spouse have something that they've wanted to have done for a while? Maybe there's a project around the house or the yard that they've been talking about. While your spouse isn't around, get the project done! Just make sure you plan in advance if it's something that requires help from other people.

4. Spend time on your personal hobbies

Do you have a hobby that you've been neglecting since you got married and started spending more of your time working on your marriage? Maybe you've neglected it completely or don't work on as often as you'd like. Spend the extra time that you have now that your spouse is away working on that hobby.

5. Pursue a new hobby

Is there something that you've always thought would be fun to try? Maybe you want to learn to play an instrument or become really good at a certain sport. Or maybe you'd love to bake or learn to cook a specific type of food. Depending on how much time you have, and what your budget will allow, this is the perfect time to get started.

6. Spend a night doing the things your spouse doesn't enjoy

While you probably have a lot in common with your spouse, there are still a lot of things that they enjoy that you might not and vice versa. While your spouse is out of town, enjoy those things that you don't usually get to do very often when they are around. Watch the movies that they don't enjoy, eat the food that they don't lov,e and blast the music that isn't their favorite to listen to.

7. Work a few extra hours

It is ok to want to make some extra money every once and a while. When your spouse is around, it's important to maintain a healthy work/life balance. Your marriage relationship should always be a priority and it shouldn't take the backseat to work, although providing for your family is definitely important. While your spouse is away, you won't have to feel guilty if you work late to get ahead on some projects.

8. Plan a date night for when they get home

After any amount of time apart, you'll most likely want to spend time together as soon as your spouse gets home. The time that you have to yourself is perfect for researching and planning a fun date night. The date doesn't have to be extravagant, but it should give you an opportunity to spend good, quality time together.

9. Do something fun with your kids

A lot of people don't have extra time to spend on themselves while their spouse is out of town because they still have their kids to take care of. That type of responsibility can be stressful. Get out with your kids and do something fun, for your own sanity as much as their enjoyment. Go to the zoo, have a playdate with other friends, have a picnic and play at the local park, or take them to get ice cream for dinner.

10. Let your spouse know that you're thinking about them

No matter what kind of contact you have while your spouse is away, don't forget to let them know that you are missing them! If you know that you won't have contact with them, hide notes in their luggage or send little gifts for them to open at certain points in their trip. If you do have a way to communicate, send texts throughout their trip and make time to talk on the phone or Facetime each day.

Being away from your spouse is never fun, no matter how short of a trip, or how often you've done it. Letting yourself have a pity party and feel lonely every night will only make your time apart harder to handle. Keeping yourself busy may not make you miss each other less, but it might help the time pass more quickly.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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