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Why you should break-up with your boyfriend
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Breaking-up is hard to do, but sometimes you gotta do it. - photo by Tamsyn Valentine
Break-ups are hard in general, whether you are the one doing the breaking-up, or on the receiving end of the bad news.

No one wants to be that person, the one that says, We need to talk.

However, there are times when ending a relationship is the best thing for both people involved. Here are 5 reasons why:

1. You keep thinking about it

When you find yourself thinking more and more about breaking-up, its usually time to do it. There are usually some reasons that you keep thinking about it, so it is only fair to yourself and your significant other to discuss it or go through with it.

2. You dont feel that spark

Now, this is something to be weary of, because there are times as woman when we can overanalyze our emotions. However, if you find yourself losing interest in the one you are dating, that could be a sign that things are going south.

When you are interested in someone you are interested in them, its as simple as that. We know how we really feel more than we think we do, and most of the time we are just making excuses to not have to do something difficult.

3. You have different end goals

Sometimes it comes down to whether or not you have the same end goals. Does he want to get married? Does he want a family? Is he concerned about you wanting to work after you have kids? In the end these things are really important to a lasting relationship, so if you find that his mission in life doesnt match yours that might mean things need to end.

4. Youd rather be alone than with him

If you find yourself wanting to spend less time with him, and more time alone or with friends, that can mean it is time to go your separate ways. Spending time with your boyfriend should not feel like a drag; it should be something that you always look forward to and cherish. Being invested in a relationship means being emotionally and physically present, so if it becomes difficult to do these things than it is time to break-up.

5. You have concerns

If you have witnessed worrisome behavior such as outbursts of anger, controlling behavior, or illegal activity of any sort, end the relationship. If your concerns are not so life-threatening but have to do with you wanting to change his personality or how he dresses, then those are things to think about a little more. Can you live with these, or are they deal breakers? In the end we cant really change people, and why would you want to if you really love them?

It is okay to want to end a relationship. You are not a horrible person, and it is good to know what you do and do not want. They might be hurt at first, but in the long run, they will be grateful that you recognized the relationship wasnt working.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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