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Why we should stop thinking all single people are sad and lonely
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Being single isnt as depressing as everyone has been making it out to be. - photo by Shelby Slade
Being single isnt as depressing as everyone has been making it out to be.

A new study shows that single people are not actually depressed and isolated like most people in relationships think they are.

The study, which was published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, shows that single people have stronger ties to more friends and family members than their married or involved counterparts, Laken Howard reported for Mic.

This isnt the first time these connections have been highlighted, even though the sad, lonely and single trope is still hanging on.

Single people are more likely to connect with and be close to their parents and siblings. They are also more likely to socialize and help friends and neighbors, keep their siblings together and be more engaged with their city, according to Bella DePaulo for Psychology Today.

On the other hand, studies have shown that people who live alone are more likely to be depressed and be on antidepressants, Amanda Gardner reported for CNN.

Twenty-five percent of people who lived alone filled an antidepressant prescription, while only 16 percent of other people did the same. However, people were quick to point out that the two might not be connected directly because of other factors.

Typically, the more connections to people you have in your life, the happier you feel.

A Harvard psychiatrist followed the lives of 268 men for 75 years and studied the things that happened in their lives, Carolyn Gregoire reported for The Huffington Post. The results of this study centered on connections, concluding that it's the relationships in our lives that matter most.

"Joy is connection, one of the study directors, George Vaillant, said. "The more areas in your life you can make connection, the better."

The reason that single people have more of these strong ties could be the nature of married people that keeps the two together, Howard explained.

Researchers offered one possible explanation, speculating that because married people are drawn to and focused on each other in such a way that excludes personal ties to others, they are naturally and necessarily homebodies, Howard wrote. Yet because single people would naturally feel lonely if they stayed at home, they tend to get out more, leading to them having much more active social lives.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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