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Why a redefinition of retirement may be in order
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With more and more workers staying on past retirement age, is there a stigma against those who retire? - photo by Sarah Anderson
With older workers staying on creating a stigma against those workers who don't stick around, a redefinition of the term "retirement" may be in order.

More than ever, retirement is becoming a transition instead of a destination, wrote Mitch Anthony, a retirement coach and financial planner, for Seeking Alpha, adding that retirement is a time to break out of your cocoon, not go into one.

Terence Hurley, 62, found out how negatively retirement can be viewed when he announced his, after 40 years of work at a biotech health company, the Washington Post reported. Instead of the support and congratulations he was expecting, he wrote in a post at CNBC.com, he was met with surprise and disappointment from coworkers, friends and family.

It was almost as if I became less worthy in their eyes, somehow flawed for wanting to call it quits, he wrote.

Some people emailed him articles with headlines such as "Why Even Thinking About Retirement Can Be a Bad Idea" and The Case Against Retirement, he noted.

Only 20 years ago, during the dotcom craze, the conversation was about retiring before age 50, wrote Dan Kadlec for Time.com. Today, its about working until age 80.

Its known that the once-idyllic retirement where you withdraw from society for golf and mahjong doesnt work for most people and this non-productivity places pressure on societys resources, Time.com noted. The boredom and isolation that can come with retirement have been found to contribute to depression and chronic conditions such as heart disease.

There's also the very real financial difficulties in retirement, with one-third of American households lacking retirement savings.

But Hurley argues that people who can afford to retire shouldnt be ashamed or afraid to, and there are ways outside of work to find meaning in life such as volunteering, travel or going back to school.

And there are countless hours to do all this even if you play a round of golf every day for the rest of your life, Time.com quipped.

Retirement planning is more complex than just saving money, but also having a plan for how youll spend your time, the Seeking Alpha noted.

While money is a core concern, decisions are becoming more focused on continuing to stay engaged and doing meaningful work, whether that work is paid or not.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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