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Want to tell someone how much you love them? Send an email
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A new study from Indiana University found that its better for people to unveil their romantic feelings in an email opposed to any other medium - photo by Herb Scribner
Want to tell someone you love them? Send them an email.

A new study from Indiana University found that its better for people to unveil their romantic feelings in an email opposed to any other medium because it allows people to convey all their thoughts simply and it allows the recipient to think over the message, the study said.

The bottom line is that email is much better when you want to convey some information that you want someone to think about, Alan R. Dennis, one the studys authors, said in a press release.

Dennis and co-author Taylor Wells, who both surveyed 72 college-aged people, found those who sent their romantic feelings in an email were better at conveying their emotions through strong and thoughtful language, the study said. The email writers were also more emotionally interested when they sent their feelings through email.

When writing romantic emails, senders consciously or subconsciously added more positive content to their messages, perhaps to compensate for the mediums inability to convey vocal tone, the researchers wrote in the study.

The other added benefit of email for the romantic: it allows people to edit and rework their romantic feelings, whereas a voicemail is a single take, and it can be sent or discarded and re-recorded, but not edited, the researchers wrote. Thus senders engage with email messages longer and may think about the task more deeply than when leaving voicemails. This extra processing may increase arousal.

Still, the researchers were quick to assure people that face-to-face conversation is the best method for relaying a message to someone, especially if its timely.

If something isnt really clear and you want to make sure that everyone has the same understanding of what something means, thats best done in phone calls, face-to-face meetings or video conferencing, Dennis said in a press release. You have different cues, and its also synchronous discussion, as opposed to email, where time goes by before the receiver gets to it.

This study is a reminder of how technology has influenced our language and habits. The Internet has influenced our language in many ways, including the creation of new languages, like txt speak, or when letters arent fully written (i.e., BRB or G2G), according to BBC.

Similarly, social media has changed the way people talk to each other, too, according to Oxford Dictionaries. Social media tends to encourage informal conversation and speech. This has also led to the proliferation of new words, like on fleek, which got its start on and was made popular by social media.

In recent years, emojis have also influenced the way people speak to each other. WIREDs Nick Stockton wrote in June of this year that emojis are less trendy slang and more their own language. In fact, he said that emojis are more evidence that technology has created new ways for people to speak to each other.

Emojis, like texts, emails and voicemails before them, add another layer to the English language and may continue to do so for years to come, Stockton wrote.

They might also be changing written English, Stockton wrote. No, not changing in a way that means the language is abandoning the alphabet and regressing back to ideograms simple glyphs, symbols and pictures. Languages change all the time, and thats OK. Its evolution.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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