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Want to chat with your family? Send a group text
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There's at least one way you can keep in contact with your family all the time start a group DM. - photo by Herb Scribner
While Drake DMs all his exes, you may want to DM your family.

Apparently thats where all the family time goes down these days.

In a piece for MEL magazine, an offshoot of Medium, Caroline Moss explains that she and her family often communicate with each other through a group direct message. Moss says her dad will sometimes send over GIFs and emojis, while her mom will send pictures of the family dog or just simple text messages.

More than anything, its been a way for Moss and her family to keep in contact despite the distance between everyone.

It used to be a conversation had around the dinner table, but now my siblings and I are out of the house Ben and I live in Brooklyn while Lucy is a sophomore at the University of Delaware, she wrote. When my mom got an iPhone about a year ago, the family group text became the dinner table chatter we no longer had and desperately missed a way for us to provide mini, often banal updates about the intricacies of our lives without having to schedule a family dinner.

A group family DM also allows users to have somewhat of a filtered news feed where you learn only about what your family members are up to.

It works well for logistical stuff, Lizzie OLeary, host of American Public Medias Marketplace Weekend, told Moss of her own group family text. We are all up in each others business a lot. But in a loving way.

She admits, though, that there are faults to this way of communication. The group family DM leaves little room to escape. You cant really unsubscribe without offending your family members, and you cant exactly leave the room like you would in real life, Moss wrote.

Family group texts can also be a nuisance when your family is engaged in an active conversation and youre in a meeting, or on a date, or just trying to sleep. And your phone will not stop going off, Moss wrote.

Still, Moss said the group family DM keeps out the mundanity of the rest of social media, allowing you to focus on only things your family cares about.

In fact, the group family chat may actually have more benefits outside of just keeping you and your family in touch. It could help you grow closer, too. A 2014 study from the University of Kansas found that teens and adult children who talk with their parents through texting and social media tend to have better relationships than those who dont.

The study specifically found that children who talked with their parents through smartphones in at least two ways texting and Snapchat, for example were happier than those who didnt at all. It only increased when more apps or messaging services were added to the bunch.

"A lot of parents might resist new technologies. They don't see the point in them, or they seem like a lot of trouble," doctoral student Jennifer Schon, who helped with the study, told CTV News. "But this study shows while it might take some work and learning, it would be worth it in the end if you are trying to have a good relationship with your adult child."

Of course, starting a group chat with your family can be a struggle since there are so many different apps and services out there. Do you focus on a Facebook Messenger group? Or bring it closer to home on your smartphone through iMessage? Kik? Line? WhatsApp?

To help you decide, here are five apps for group texters to get their hands on.

GroupMe

This is the app you want for your family DM thatll include Uncle Larry, whos refused to embrace smartphones. GroupMe allows those with iPhones, Android phones, Blackberrys and non-smartphones to communicate all in one place. GroupMe is the Swiss Army knife of group texting and communication apps, according to LifeHacker.

WhatsApp

WhatsApp works perfectly for families who are spread out across international waters. The app allows international texting for free and has no cost as of 2016.

Google Chat/Hangout

Keep everything simple through Googles hangout and messaging service. It allows you to text and talk for free, all the while staying near your email if you need to send someone a private message. It also allows you to take your messages off the record, just in case you dont want everyone to read them in the future.

Facebook Messenger

Youre forced to have this app, so why not use it to keep in touch with your family? Facebook Messenger allows you to easily add people to the conversation and gives you the opportunity to give each of the people in your group a nickname. GIFs, stickers and emojis are aplenty in this app, too.

Text2Group

This is a simple group texting app, which allows you to create contacts of groups to make the messaging experience easier.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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