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This viral photo of teens praying before prom is sparking outrage
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A group of teens in Oakland, California, have gone viral after a photo of them praying before dinner on prom night caused an uproar on social media. - photo by Herb Scribner
A photo of a group of teens in California praying before dinner on prom night caused an uproar on social media about what it means to be a good kid.

KTVU journalist Frank Somerville posted the photo of the teens saying grace, which he originally received from one of the teen's mothers. Somerville celebrated the group for behaving well on prom night.

So impressed with these young people on their prom date at Longhorn, he wrote on the post. They all said Grace before eating and were all well behaved.

Somerville said Noelle Smith, mother of one of the kids, sent a note with the photo, too.

Good morning," Smith wrote to Somerville, according to his post. "Thank you for everything that you do. I want to share a picture of my daughter and her friends from prom night. Now with the stories today about teenagers and Tide pods and condoms gathering headlines this picture speaks for itself.

Somerville added, "It sure does. Its REALLY nice to see."

The photo received more than 2,000 "likes," 215 "shares" and 400 "comments" since it was first posted on Tuesday.

But, as Fox News reported, the picture kick-started a debate among the Facebook commenters over what it means to be a good kid.

Commenters specifically took umbrage with Somervilles post, which, they said, implied that you had to pray or say grace to be considered a good kid.

One commenter said, Saying grace over your food says nothing of your moral compass, integrity or character Behaving well at a restaurant while in your late teens, and being considerate (of) people, should not be Facebook praiseworthy.

Another wrote, I see well-behaved people doing terrible things, misbehaved people who just take care of someone in need. Being a (C)hristian doesnt mean they are well behaved.

Somerville commented on the post to respond to the critics. He said he felt surprised that the photo received such heavy backlash.

I'm honestly surprised by some of these comments, he wrote. I wasn't trying to imply that you have to be a Christian to be a good person. What I see from these kids is that they are respectful, that they are humbled and that they are appreciative (of) what they have. I could care less whether they are religious, but by saying grace it shows me that they have those qualities and those are the qualities, regardless of whether you believe in god, that I admire.

According to Yahoo! News, the mother who took the photo also interjected to reveal her thoughts on the picture.

They conducted themselves as adults. Not because they prayed but because they sat up straight in their chair, they didnt disrupt others, and (they) showed and used good manners which is the whole point and also that we as parents have done our job producing productive members of society!
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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