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This kind of mom posts the most on Facebook
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It turns out Facebook is really for the moms especially these two types. Read and find out if you fit the mold. - photo by Herb Scribner
Facebook may be for mothers, but apparently some use it more than others.

A new study from Ohio State University has found new moms use Facebook more than others, specifically as a way to show off their new babies. Mothers who see themselves as perfectionists and those who want validation as a mother post most often among the bunch.

Moms who post more frequently also feel stronger emotional reactions to comments on photos of new babies, and would even act sad if they didnt get enough positive comments about their babys photos.

Sarah Schoppe-Sullivan, lead author of the study and professor of human sciences at Ohio State University, said these mothers may have unhealthy habits when it comes to using the social network.

"If a mother is posting on Facebook to get affirmation that she's doing a good job and doesn't get all the 'likes' and positive comments she expects, that could be a problem. She may end up feeling worse," Schoppe-Sullivan said in a press release.

And shes right, to a point. The study, which looked at the Facebook habits of highly educated and mostly married moms from the Midwest who had full-time employment, found mothers who checked Facebook the most were also more likely to suffer from depression in the nine months after giving birth.

Jill Yavorsky, co-author of the study, said new moms should be aware that Facebook isnt the best place to seek validation for being a mother.

"The message of the study isn't that Facebook is necessarily harmful but that using Facebook may not be an effective platform for women to seek and gain external validation that they're good moms, she said.

Of course, not all the moms used Facebook in unhealthy ways. On average, new moms had a slight increase in Facebook use after their babies were born. Close to 98 percent of the moms in the study said they uploaded photos of their newborn. About 80 percent of these moms said they put their baby in their profile picture.

"What these mothers are saying is that my child is central to my identity, at least right now. That's really telling," Schoppe-Sullivan said.

While its clear new moms are all about that Facebook flow, most American parents are unsure about how much they should post on social media networks about their children. According to The Wall Street Journal, a recent survey found that the average parent will post about 1,000 photos of their children online, with many parents not asking permission from their children before posting. These parents dont even check their own privacy settings before posting, either.

Thats problematic, critics say, since public photos of your child can expose youngsters to the wider Internet, putting them at risk for embarrassment or exposure.

But some parents are a little less concerned, arguing that parents should feel free to post about their children as freely as they want.

Its a way to strengthen an online social circle, they say, and connect with people you didnt know before, according to WSJ. Whats more, children are going to end up on social media eventually, they say, and parents can set a good example for them by being careful about what photos they post and asking permission when children are old enough to consent.

This ability to build an online community has in fact driven many parents to post their childs picture online. They feel support from the community, and engaged with people they dont know in real life.

Still, theres the worry that the photos will spread too far and end up in the wrong hands. And, as the aforementioned study mentioned, its possible that seeking approval from other mothers based on what you post could put you on a path for depression.

These issues are thorny enough when deciding to post pictures of ourselves onlinein fact, research shows that adults are sharing less personal content on social-networking sites (much to Facebooks chagrin). They may be compounded for children, WSJ reported

Thats why Lisa Tierney-Keogh, a New York-based mother, said she only posts some photos of her children online. Some dont deserve to be seen by others like bath time photos but ones that show her accomplishing important tasks do, according to MarketWatch.

In fact, Tierney-Keogh will also make sure her child is never directly looking in the camera, either. She doesnt want other parents being overburdened with photos of her child.

It doesnt come from a place of fear, it comes from a place of sensitivity and protection, she told MarketWatch. Its hard to raise a child in America. Theres a lot of competition to be seen to be doing well and always capturing those perfect family moments.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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