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'This Is Us star opens up about abusive stepfather in new book
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Chrissy Metz of This Is Us speaks at Center Stage Theatre on Friday, March 30, 2018, in Atlanta. (Photo by Robb Cohen/Invision/AP) - photo by Herb Scribner
Chrissy Metz, who plays Kate Pearson on the NBC hit This Is Us, recently spoke with a number of news outlets about her new book, her career and how she lived with an abusive stepfather for years.

In her book, This Is Me: Loving the Person You Are Today, Metz wrote about her abusive stepfather. As USA Today reported, Metz wrote, "It was as if he hated to have to even look at me.

My body seemed to offend him, but he couldnt help but stare, especially when I was eating.

He never punched my face, Metz wrote. Just my body, the thing that offended him so much. He shoved me, slapped me, punched my arm, and yanked my wrist. He would hit me if he thought I looked at him wrong.

She told NPR, though, that her stepfather eventually apologized and she forgave him for his actions.

Metz said she used the feeling that she wished she had a better father in her scenes on This Is Us, since the show portrays a positive relationship between Metzs character, Kate, and her dad.

And so it's really about the lack of relationship or what I wish might have been, and even sort of living vicariously through this character, she said. And so I definitely find myself enjoying that process, because I'm like, Oh it's like a healthy relationship. Who doesn't want one of those?

Metz also spoke on the Today show, as Us reports, about her abusive stepfather, saying she didnt understand why he would hit her.

I didnt know what I did wrong or what I could do better. It was very confusing, Metz told host Hoda Kotb. And now, of course, as an adult, going through this evolution of, I guess, spirituality and forgiveness and everything, I get it. It had nothing to do with me and that people hurt people.

Before she appeared on TV, Metz worked as a talent agent. She moved out to California to pursue acting but decided to temporarily become an agent because she couldnt find acting work.

Metz told NPR she was on unemployment and I had 81 cents in my bank account when one of my friends texted me and suggested that, you know, I go to the ('This Is Us') audition.

She landed the role.

Metz recently opened up about her earlier TV experiences to "Entertainment Tonight," too, saying she auditioned for American Idol, but she "pushed back" when the producers asked her to share more than just her singing abilities.

"You know, I get it, they're trying to make stories and they're trying to invest the audience into these characters and I understand the whole scope of everything, especially (since) I was a talent agent, Metz told "Entertainment Tonight." So, I understand what they're doing. And I was like, Oh, I can sort of see that and I don't want to be that girl.

She added, It was like, Oh, how else can we kind of jab? and I was like, Don't you're not ready because I'm gonna jab right back. Or, I'm just gonna leave because of course that's not the purpose of me going. I didn't want to make ridiculous TV. I wanted to, you know, be respected as a singer.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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