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This company has banned bae and snookums from Valentines Day
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The Marmite Food Co. has decided to ban "bae" and "snookums" from its recent promotion. But why, Marmite? Tell us why! - photo by Herb Scribner
The Marmite Food Co. wants to make your Valentines Day extra special by allowing you to order jars of its yeast-extract product with your significant others name on it.

But theres a catch: Not all names work.

The company, which allows users to enter their lovers name along with a message that signifies their love, has specifically banned three words from buyers to use: bae, snookums and baby cakes.

In the event that you attempt to ruin your lovely new jar of Marmite with stomach-curdling pet names, your attempt will be duly denied, the website reads. Marmite recently commissioned research to find the nations most hated pet-names and consequently the top three terms Bae, Snookums and Baby Cakes have all been banned from the personalisation service."

The penalty? You cant buy a jar of Marmite.

Users can still use their 11 characters for other pet names, though, like baby, babe and sweetie pie.

But the company doesnt recommend it, especially since Marmite, a salty and dark brown food paste in the United Kingdom and Australia, is usually consumed at breakfast, and pet names may provide a bad start to your morning.

We appreciate that Marmite is a spread best enjoyed at breakfast, and nobody wants a side helping of nausea first thing in the morning, so we thought it made perfect sense to ban the most hated pet names, the companys brand manager Philippa Atkinson, told The Drum. Who knows, we may even be responsible for saving some relationships along the way.

Not exactly, Marmite. See, pet names have been noted to be healthy for relationships, and may offer a clue into how we as humans handle our romantic endeavors.

Pet names are nothing new in todays society. Couples will often use these different terms to show signs of affection and as terms of endearment. They range from the cliche baby, bae, sweetpea to the absurd, like ponds-fish or Loppy Lop, as Elizabeth Landau highlighted in a piece for the Scientific American.

Pet names for couples arent strictly American, either. The French, known for their romantic culture, also have created pet names for their partners, Landau wrote.

These pet names often act as more than just terms of endearment, but are also often a reflection of how much people enjoy their relationships. In a 1993 study, Carol J. Bruess and Judy C. Pearson looked at how nicknames can affect relationships, and found that relationships often have mini-cultures within themselves, where there are rituals, private languages and ceremonies that only couples understand. This can be seen in modern culture through pet names, inside jokes and ongoing types of dates.

I think its a really human, natural behavior to take language and shape it for our own purposes, Bruess told Scientific American.I think thats how nicknames evolve. We name things, we give things symbols, and over time we tend to naturally manipulate those symbols toward a certain outcome.

For many couples, these pet names prove to have a positive effect. Couples, especially those who have been in a relationship for a long time, recognize these names to be special, which become part of the fabric of their relationship, Breuss said.

The study, which had students from Ohio State University fill out surveys on relationships, found theres a strong link between relationship satisfaction and having pet names mostly because those names are goofy and lessen the tension between couples.

If we cant laugh at ourselves and with each other in the relationship, were less likely to sustain that relationship in a positive way over time, Bruess told Scientific American.

Still, not everyone is down with using pet names for their children. As New Republics Alice Robb wrote, some couples will avoid using nicknames because they sound weird like referring to your partner as a baby, which is its own thing. Others find some nicknames demeaning, like reducing your romantic partner to a single word like, babe, Robb wrote.

But most experts still find it healthy for couples to use nicknames since they are a sign of intimacy and closeness, which often cant be measured by any other method.

Pet names are a kind of cue to intimacy, Ian Kerner, an author on relationships, told Robb. They speak to the intimacy in a relationship. When couples stop using baby names, its often an indication of a lack of intimacy.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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