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Should you circumcise your newborn?
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Should you? Shouldn't you? Here's what you need to know. - photo by Amberlee Lovell
What once used to be a common practice in America has become quite the hot topic. In 2010, 53 percent of newborn baby boys were circumcised, (a 10 percent decline from 1979) but a not-so-scientific Buzzfeed poll of over 400,000 people discovered that 71 percent of those who took the poll do not think it is appropriate to circumcise a newborn. Those votes came with lots of heated debate.

So should you circumcise your precious newborn baby boy? Here are some things to consider before making this choice.

Science says yes maybe?

If you choose to have your little guy undergo the procedure, a study by Mayo Health Clinic is on your side. This analysis shows that over the lifetime, benefits exceed risks by at least 100 to 1, the study reads. If one considers the seriousness of some conditions that circumcision protects against, the benefit would actually be much greater.

However, this is a hugely disputed area. The classic reasons of improved health are debated in most articles against circumcision.

Enjoying sex

Theres a lot of debate about this, and studies proving both sides; but advocates of not circumcising your baby claim those who are circumcised dont enjoy sex as much.

Will he need circumcision in the future?

Three percent of boys who are not circumcised as children will need circumcision as they get older because of infection or a condition that doesnt allow the foreskin to retract properly.

The cost

Many insurance plans still cover the cost of circumcision; but some are starting to exclude it. Costs tend to range from $150 to $400, according to Cost Helper Health.

Doctors recommend

This is actually completely up to you. The American Academy of Pediatrics is mostly neutral about circumcision.

The emotional toll

Most places will give a local anesthetic, and as a two-day-old baby he wont remember it, but the recovery is still a painful process for your sweet babe.

It could reduce some nasty diseases and cancer

Boys who are circumcised are less likely to have urinary tract infections in their early years, less likely to have some STDs like herpes and HPV, and have a lower chance of penile cancer, according to the Mayo Health Clinic study.

Although this is disputed (as pointed out above), those who oppose circumcision, as shown in this Oxford Journal article, dont claim uncircumcised boys have a lower rate of STDs, just that circumcision may not necessarily lower the chances.

Should it be his decision?

How do you feel about making a permanent body decision for this little body that cant even sit up alone? Some parents have issues making a permanent choice when the baby has no say in it.

What are the risks?

Complications are extremely rare. Its not a dangerous procedure, however some short-term problems could include oozing or slight bleeding from where the surgery was performed, infection at the opening of the urethra, and irritation of the tip of the penis, according to WebMD.

Who will be teaching him about his body?

If his Dad is circumcised, do you want their bodies to look the same? Children usually see their parents naked at some point, and notice differences. Will this create insecurity in your little boy?

Does your religion chime in?

Jews, Muslims and some Christians still follow the guidelines given in Genesis and circumcise their boys because of religious beliefs.

Its almost illegal in some places

Circumcision is common in the United States, but much less common in other countries. In 2012 Germany voted on a law that would make circumcision illegal, but several other countries especially Nordic countries have strongly considered making it illegal.

So, what do you think?
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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