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Seven essentials of parenting kids with smartphones
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Every kid has a smartphone these days, right? Well, almost. Pew Research Centers 2015 Teens, Social Media & Technology Overview shows 73 percent of American teens ages 13 to 17 have or have access to a smartphone. That statistic may not surprise you, but a recent Nielsen survey shows even 34 percent of 10-year-olds have a smartphone service plan.

Many of you have kids in your household carting the world around in the palms of their hands. Take these steps to keep children smartphone safe and keep yourself smartphone sane.

Set tech-free times

Half of all teens in a Common Sense Media poll admitted to feeling addicted to their devices. Sometimes young people (and adults) just dont have the discipline to limit how much they use their phones. Parents can help. Set specific times when screens should be put away. One possibility would be no phones for an hour right after school, or to set a certain time at night when kids plug in phones to charge (even better if that happens in a parents room). Pick times that seem realistic and make sure to follow through.

Establish tech-free zones

Another easy way to limit smartphone time is to set certain locations where phones aren't allowed. At the dinner table or in the car are possible places. Many moms and dads enforce a no phones in bedrooms rule, which is a great way to make sure kids arent using their phones into the wee hours of the night.

Keep track of passwords

Make sure your children share their passwords with you. This will warrant a good heart-to-heart about why parents are responsible to help their kids learn how to use tech safely. Explain to kids that while they are learning to navigate the digital world, a parent may do spot checks once in a while to make sure all is well in smartphone land.

Keep track of your kids

Theres nothing like the peace of mind knowing your child is on their way home around curfew, or that they made it safely to a friends house. Chat with your kids about why you need to have the ability to check where they are. Play up the fact that it will minimize the nagging texts they'll receive. Use Apples Find My Friends app by having each child share their location with you from their phone (you can make this permanent by going through the Restrictions section on Settings). The Google Play store also has several good apps that serve the same purpose for Android phones. Find My Friends is a good free one to try.

Permission to download

Kids download and delete apps every day. Its almost impossible for parents to keep up without some high tech help. Family Sharing for iPhone (Settings> [your name] and tap Family Sharing) requires permission from the family organizer before a child can buy or download anything. Android users have the same ability through the Play Store app (tap Menu>Account>Family>Manage family members).

Be where they are on social media

After parents do their research and decide to give permission, its time for mom and dad to get on there as well. The best way to understand the glories and dangers of any app is to use it. By doing so, parents will be able without being intrusive to monitor what their kids (and their kids' friends) post. A 2017 Common Sense Media survey found the majority of teens who use Facebook have friended their parents on that platform, but not so much on other networks like Instagram, Snapchat or Twitter.

Practice what you preach

A couple of years ago, researchers asked teenagers what technology rules they would set for their parents if they could. The most popular responses might be tough to read. One asked that moms and dads be present instead of staring at their screens all the time, another wanted their parents to have other interests besides those that involve a screen. If we are begging our children to have lives beyond their screens, we have to walk the walk. If we don't, it's reasonable for them to consider us high-tech hypocrites.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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