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Losing weight (For your spouse or sweetheart) Part 3
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"All you need is love" might be the mantra for the new "eat-half" diet. By undertaking disciplined eating for your sweetheart, you increase your chance of success. But make no mistake, you still have to make your body work! - photo by Linda and Richard Eyre
Note: This is the third of four articles in the "Sweetheart Diet" series.

Parts 1 and 2 of this series had such a favorable response that we thought we had better add a part 3. The idea of a simplified eat-half approach to dieting from the first article led to a second article about some practical pre-habits that can be adopted to help us reach the half-habit. Both articles stressed the motivation that comes when we diet for our familiesfor the purpose of getting ourselves in better shape so we can be the best spouses to our husbands or wives and the best parents to our children.

"All you need is love" might be the mantra for the new "eat-half" diet. By undertaking disciplined eating for your sweetheart instead of doing it for yourself, you increase your chance of success.

But the Half Diet Diet will still not reach its full potential for taking weight off and keeping it off unless one more habit is added, and that habit isyou guessed itthe exercise-habit. We are in Australia as we write this article, and it seems like the perfect setting. Are there any people in the world more active, more into fitness, and more outdoorsy than Ausies? We doubt it.

And the fact is that while putting less (and better) food into your body is going to make your body work better, you still have got to make your body work!

Should it be a chore, a task, a constant struggle to force this work to happento force your body to exercise? Does it have to be something you hate doing but keep motivating yourself to do anyway for your own good, like taking cod liver oil?

No! Exercising, like eating, should be one of the natural and simple and pure joys of life. It should feel good while youre doing it as well as when youre through, and it should be a way of rewarding yourself, not a way of punishing yourself.

The key is to find a form of exercise that you love, one that makes your body smile while its sweating out that pore-cleaning water and pumping those endorphins around through your expanded lungs and your healthier cardiovascular system.

For me, Richard, its tennis. It used to be basketball, but now its tennis: hard tennis singles, without breaks between games, so that its aerobic. For my, Linda, its the bike: the road bike if the weather is good, the stationery one at home if its not. For one of our daughters, its running; for another daughter, its hiking. For a good friend, its the aerobic yoga class at the gym that has a good nursery for her two preschoolers. For another friend, its the StairMaster while he reads the morning paper every day. For yet another friend, its early-morning lap swimming.

What were saying here is simply that youve got to find or develop a physical passion of some kinda form of exercise that you love. You dont need to instantly love it. It can take a little time to get into something, to get good enough at it that its enjoyable, and to get hooked on the way it makes you feel. If you dont know what your physical passion might be, start trying things until you find one.

The point is that we all need an output to go with our improved input. Disciplining ourselves with regard to input into our bodiesless and better food, eaten more slowly, and more waterhas to be accompanied and enhanced by the passion and rigor of the output of our exercise. One side is working on the quality and quantity of the calories we put in, and the other side is developing the most enjoyable and beneficial way of burning and sweating them out!

The very best kind of exercise habit is one you can enjoy with your family. Families who have a favorite sport, one that they enjoy together, gain the win-win, double benefit of physical improvement and emotional improvement. Its all been said before: The family that plays together stays together.

If you are a skier, you will be motivated to get more in shape and stay in shape for skiing with year-around exercises or a ski-like elliptical machine. If you are a tennis family (like we are) you will play more often with others to become better for when you play with your family. If you run together with your sweetheart, swim together, hike together, bike togetherwhatever it is, it will help you both with your exercise habit and with your familys communication habit.

Then, put these good habits together with the water habit, the slow habit, and the eat-half habit from articles one and twoand you will find that all these positive addictions will begin to work together for the benefit of your partner, your lover, your sweetheart as well as the benefit of your body!
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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