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Life may not always seem exciting, but it's worth writing down
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5:10 a.m., my alarm goes off.

I wake up with six hours of sleep and put on my gym clothes. Its cold and dark, but here I go, getting a jump on the day.

In life, some days are good and some are bad; some are meaningful, others are just horrible. But most days are the same. Most days are mundane, where not much out of the ordinary happens. These are the days in which my life is formed.

I remember missing school once or twice as a child and joining my mom on some errands. I remember being entirely captivated watching the color of the sky through my car window as she drove us from errand to errand. I felt as though I had a glimpse into her mysterious doings, even if they were ordinary and predictable, like going to the bank and the grocery store. I loved spending those moments with her. I wish my grandmother Fleeta, who died before I was born, recorded a few of those moments. For posterity, here are more of mine:

7:44 a.m., back home. Sweaty. I grab my No. 3 child, and he lets me cuddle him for a moment while I try to warm up. He nuzzles his soft, golden hair against my cheek.

7:55 a.m. The bus comes in exactly 30 minutes so I make scrambled eggs, cold cereal and strawberry oatmeal. I pick out clothes for children No. 1 and No. 2 and have a fight with No. 2 about whether shorts are an acceptable choice in 50-degree weather. I lose the fight.

8:23 a.m. No. 1 is ready for school, walking to the bus stop, while I curse a little and try to tie No. 2s shoelaces. Im unsuccessful, so he runs to the bus with his red laces flapping here and there. I hope he doesnt trip. His sister ties his laces when he gets to school.

8:26 a.m. I take No. 3 by the hand and start looking for blue clothes and a blue toy for preschool show-and-tell. Blue is, of course, the color of the day. But all he sees is green and red. He yells at me when I tell him he cant take a yellow toy to school. He agrees to bring the blue and purple owls after I show him which color is blue and which is purple.

8:55 a.m. I line my car up along the curb with all of the other moms waiting to drop their children at preschool. His teacher is very organized. I feel a pang every time I say goodbye to No. 3 even though its just for a couple of hours.

9:05 a.m. Back at home. I eat the leftover, cold scrambled eggs and swallow six fish oil pills with some chocolate milk. I change out of my gym clothes and head to the car. I have about five errands to finish before I come back to get No. 3.

9:30 a.m. I wash and vacuum car. Nobodys allowed to eat in the car, yet somehow these kids have filled the backseat with crumbs and sticky things. So dirty.

10:05 a.m. I check my tire pressure because the check tire light came on. Turns out, one of the tires has a slice in the sidewall and if I drive on the freeway it will explode. Must get two new tires. Ugh.

11:30 a.m. I find a baby shower gift, mail things at post office and finish all of my errands except one. No. 3 waves at me as he stands on the sidewalk and the preschool pickup procession proceeds.

11:40 a.m. No. 2 comes home from school. He has a juice box and some cookies for a snack.

12:15 p.m. Im wrapping the baby shower gift when No. 3 decides he cant make it to the potty and pees on the stairs. Luckily, No. 2 helps me clean up the mess. No. 2 is my favorite.

12:16 p.m. I step in the mess and throw my wet socks into the dirty laundry.

12:45 p.m. I make the boys lunch and start steaming some grapes for homemade grape juice. The boys have a great time washing the grapes and watching the little berries blister and pop in the steamer.

1:30 p.m. I have some leftovers for lunch.

2:10 p.m. I load the boys up to go to the tire store to get new tires. I put various electronics in my purse to try to appease them. This isnt going to be pretty.

3:15 p.m. The car has new tires. The electronics batteries werent charged and died almost immediately. No. 2 had two timeouts in the tire store while No. 3 played nicely. No. 3 is my favorite.

3:45 p.m. Home. Processing grape juice and making dinner at the same time. Boys are fighting. No. 1 is practicing piano. No 1 is my favorite.

4:15 p.m. I hide in my room because I cant take the screaming.

5 p.m. Back in the kitchen. Banished boys outside. No. 1 is still the best. Boys are blowing bubbles inside.

At some point, I went to the baby shower, taught a yoga class, came home, ate dinner and went to bed too late. Tomorrow is another day mundane, maybe meaningful, and marvelous to be alive.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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