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Lessons from Disneyland help to 'bring magic' home
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Sleeping Beauty Castle at Disneyland - photo by Erin Stewart
My family and I just returned from a trip to Disneyland, a magical place where time stands still and hot dogs cost $10. Yes, its a childs paradise of princesses, rides and indulgence that pulls children and parents alike into the magical mayhem.

During our four days together at the most magical place on earth, I learned a few lasting lessons.

1. There are some super important people at Disneyland. This is the only explanation I have for how many Disneygoers acted as they cut in line for rides, pushed their way to the front of parade routes and generally assumed their children were the most important people at Magic Kingdom. My kids may not have had princess glitter in their freshly done hair or a $20 balloon in their hand, but theyre kind of important in my world. So dont give my kid an elbow to the face as you rush past the rope drop in the morning. Walt wouldnt have wanted it that way, and I hope my children dont grow up that way either.

2. I am old. Have the teacups always spun so fast? And has the Indiana Jones ride always been so jerky? The fact is, Im getting older, which means I got dizzy on rides that were nothing before, and I couldnt even attempt some of the bigger coasters. Of course, I used my youngest daughter as the excuse for why I had to sit out on a few; Im not about to admit to my older daughter that mommy is becoming a huge wuss as she gets older. And my husband vowed he would never speak again of my complete claustrophobic panic attack on the Finding Nemo Submarine Voyage. (In my defense, it really feels like the ship is underwater even though it never actually submerges. OK, there is no excuse I am a wuss.)

3. I actually enjoy my children. This may seem somewhat obvious, but its nice to be reminded every once in a while that I love spending time with my kids. When there are no work deadlines, no chauffeuring to activities and no meals to make, its amazing how much fun I can have just playing and being with my kids.

So as we return to normal life, where the aroma of churros doesnt fill the air and the most critical decision isnt which FastPass to get next, Im having a little Disney withdrawal. Lets face it the place is magical.

For me, the most magical part of this trip was taking four days to just be with my kids, making memories as a family and worrying about nothing but enjoying our time together. Even just standing in line together without checking our cellphones became a game as we played together and talked.

So while the vacation is over for now, Im hoping to bring a little Disney magic into my daily life. We may not have princesses around every corner or fireworks every night, but we do have each other. And if theres one thing Im taking from this trip, its that time together can be magical no matter where you are.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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