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How to tell if your teen is addicted to texting and what to do about it
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Teens spend the majority of their screen time on messaging apps. A large number of them admit they are even addicted. Here are some signs to watch for, and ideas to help curb kids' screen time. - photo by Amy Iverson
If you ever look over at a group of teens, they will never be looking at you. They will be staring at their phones. Look around you right now, and its likely that most people you see are fixated on little rectangular screens. We can lament the loss of face-to-face communication and eye contact between our teenagers, but the fact is that adults arent much better at ignoring their phones.

Now, maybe all that screen time isnt completely horrible.

Many people argue spending 25 minutes a day messaging people (the average) on our phones can help us accomplish a lot. Parents arrange kids schedules, keep in touch with children, and organize volunteer work. Teens send silly pictures, talk about the opposite sex, and let everyone know about the big Friday night party.

So is the down side of so much messaging really all that bad?

Nomophobia is when someone has a fear of being away from their phone; a phobia of having no mobile. And 50 percent of teenagers admit to having it. They feel addicted to their phones and are sending around 200 texts every day.

Thats a problem.

First is the physiological effect. Text neck is a real thing that can cause a series of health issues. Constantly hunching over to stare at our gadgets creates a nightmare for posture. Plus, neck and shoulder pain are often the result of putting so much strain on our spines.

Another health hazard that comes from too much screen time is lack of sleep. We know that the blue light from our phones, computers and tablets messes with our circadian rhythm, and that means disruptive sleep patterns. Some people who are addicted to their phones admit to having a hard time sleeping through the night because of FOMO (fear of missing out). People are actually waking up in the middle of the night out of habit to check their phones.

Phone addiction can also take its toll on teens learning. Students who text while doing homework soak up less information. College kids who text during class end up with notes that arent as thorough as those from students who focus all their attention on the professor.

So how can parents know if their kids texting habits are normal or have gone beyond what is considered healthy behavior?

Kelly Lister-Landman is an assistant professor of psychology at Delaware County Community College. She says texting has gone too far if teens lie about whether or not they are texting, if they get combative when someone questions their texting behavior, and if a teenager has tried to cut back, but cant.

And Dr. David Greenfield, founder of The Center for Internet and Technology Addiction, says it can be a problem when anyone spends so much time on gadgets that it replaces other things that are important in our lives, like exercise, socializing or work.

If you recognize any of this in your teenager (or yourself), there are some things you can do.

Set times or even days that are tech-free. Maybe no phones are allowed during homework, or nothing with a screen for an hour before bedtime.

Set tech-free zones in your home like the dinner table, or bedrooms.

Be active with them. Often teens turn to screens because they are bored. Create something more rewarding or more entertaining for them to do and maybe even do it with them.

Set an example. Its tough to motivate our kids to put their phones down when our nose is in a screen all the time. Model responsible digital behavior for them to follow.

Parents should first observe kids gadget behavior to identify problem areas. Then, if needed, institute some rules to keep screen time in check. And finally, moms and dads may need to take a long, hard look in the mirror and make some corrections within their own digital lives. Texting isnt inherently evil, but it can become that way if we ignore the warning signs of addiction and are too lazy to improve our habits.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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