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How to teach your kids to be colorblind
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In a world of chaos, it is important to teach your kids to love everyone. Here are some ways to do so. - photo by Megan Shauri
Just recently my kids have started noticing the color of peoples skin. Not in a bad way, just pointing out if a person is darker or lighter skinned. I was surprised that they noticed this at their age...and quickly realized that I need to make more of an effort to teach about loving everyone no matter what color their skin, hair or eyes are. Here are things I have tried that seem to be working:

Give them toys of every race

My kids are mixed race, so to be honest it is hard finding toys that look just like them. Instead, I dont worry about the color of the toy. My daughter has dolls of every skin color. She seems to be more concerned about their hair color at the moment, so she has a variety of hair colors as well. I try not to teach her that every doll is beautiful and unique in their own way.

Be the very best example

I try not to discriminate in any way ever, but especially around my kids. I try not to categorize anyone by skin color, or talk about a race in a negative way. This can carry over into age discrimination, gender, and even social class. Our kids learn these differences from us and their interactions with others. They also learn how to treat others and love others from us.

Watch my language

My kids pick up on everything I say, so I have to really watch what words I use. Instead of describing a person only by their skin color, I try telling what hair style they have, what theyre wearing or what they are doing. I dont refrain from saying black, white or brown completely, I just dont make it the focus of my description. If I dont make a big deal out of someones skin color, they wont either.

Learn about cultures

In our home, learning about other cultures is something we focus on. I like to go to events and festivals that feature different cultures and I have involved my kids in learning and studying cultures from the time they were little. Its normal to dance samba, eat sushi and hit piatas at our house. I try to teach my kids that even though we are different, there are great things to learn from every culture.

Dont be afraid to talk about differences

I try to make my house a very safe place for questions of all kinds. We often talk about what is right and what is wrong and my kids arent afraid to ask me anything. If I see a behavior that is not right, I call it out. Whether it is something my own kids are doing, or something we see someone else doing, I will explain to my kids that that is not right and why. Every moment is a learning opportunity.

Travel

We love to travel as a family. Going to new places whether in your own state or outside the country is a great way to see new cultures and experience new people. Dont be afraid to bring them along when you travel and to go outside and experience where you are. There really is no better way for your children to learn about others who are different then themselves then by seeing it firsthand.

We may not be able to control what other people say or do, but we can teach our kids and those around us what being a good person who sees someones qualities before skin color is.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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