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Helping your child combat stress
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Here are some actionable tips for teaching your child how to manage stress at home. - photo by Jeriann Ireland
Stress is a part of everyday life for most people, children included. Of course, stress has a negative connotation, but its really just a natural reaction to the reality of existing in a large world. Were not always going to be comfortable.

Children go through a lot of stress. They experience physical stress due to rapid changes in their growing bodies. And of course, they experience emotional stress when faced with new and strange situations. Since much of the world is new to a child, they encounter stressful situations quite frequently. Here is an article focused on eliminating school-related stress. Below are some ways you can teach your children how to healthily deal with stress at home.

Be a model

Being a parent, youre no stranger to stress. Make sure your children see you handling stress well. When plans change, as they most certainly will, talk out your thought process: Well, I didnt plan on fitting that errand in today, but since we have to get it done Ill move things around.

Dont allow stress to overwhelm you. Of course, you dont want to hide your emotions either. If you need time to process, its perfectly acceptable to tell your kids: How about you finish these crafts while I figure out how this change affects our plans, okay?

You help your child combat stress by preventing unnecessary stress in your familys everyday life. This will show them how to build a stress-reduced environment. You can do this by building up a routine, then showing how that routine can be flexible. For example, showing how every day has the same morning routine, but then Tuesdays differ because of appointments, and Wednesdays venture off even more on their own allows children to see that you can be organized in your schedule without being locked in place.

Encourage activity

Stress grows as we let our minds dwell on it too much. Being active not only trains our bodies to handle physical stress better but also gives our minds more pressing things to consider. If youre looking for easy, winter-friendly ways to get your kids moving, check out these hot tub exercises that can easily be performed during bath time. You can also look for interactive shows and movies that get your kids up and dancing!

Plan ahead

No matter how you prepare, your child will encounter stress, and this will cause meltdowns. This isnt a terrible thing. Stress is a part of life. It is important to prepare your child for stressful situations though, so its easier to walk them through them. For example, if youve recently moved, you can help them prepare for their new school.

If youre welcoming visitors into your home for the holidays, prepare your children for the possibility they may get overwhelmed by more people than usual, and make a strategy plan. Set aside a quiet place where they can meditate, read or listen to music on headphones while they calm down.

Provide outlets

No matter how much you plan, stress will happen. Its important to provide outlets like mentioned above, in encouraging physical activity and providing quiet spaces. You should also make it clear that your child can always talk to you about their emotions. Research strategies used by child counselors to learn about positive coping suggestions. And of course, if stress becomes prolonged and overwhelming, consider seeing a therapist or counselor with your child for even more tangible suggestions. Be sure you research the certification requirements for child counselors to find a qualified counselor suited to your needs.

These are just a few ways you can reduce the amount of negative stress in your childs life and equip them to handle the stress they do encounter. Do you have child-friendly stress relief techniques? Share in the comments!
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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