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Father-son duo Shay and Gavin Butler share 30-day challenge to be healthier in 'Fat Dad, Fat Kid'
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The Butler family at the Santa Monica Pier in 2009, right after they moved to Los Angeles. - photo by Christine Rappleye
When Shay Butler and his then-11-year-old son Gavin Butler started a 30-day challenge to eat healthier and lose weight last summer, it was a challenge they planned to do together.

He was excited, Shay Butler said of Gavins reaction. They listed some activities they wanted to do, including swimming, biking, soccer, running and basketball.

When Butler, a digital entrepreneur and vlogger known for his Shaytards YouTube channel, would travel for work, Gavin came along too.

No matter where I was, he traveled with me, Butler said in an interview with the Deseret News. Its been a big relationship-building experience for us.

Their journey along the 30 days is included in their book, Fat Dad, Fat Kid: One Father and Sons Journey to Take Power Away From the F-Word (Atria/Keywords Press, $16.99), which was released Dec. 29. The lime green on the cover, turning the word Fat to Fit, was Gavins idea, Butler said.

One of the biggest challenges they had during the 30 days was not eating sugar.

When youre done with dinner and you want dessert, you want dessert, Butler said. When you cant have dessert, its really, really hard.

But he didnt cheat once.

The only reason I didnt cheat was because of my son, Butler said. Hes strong, hes strong-willed.

And knowing Gavin was keeping his end of their challenge helped Butler stay away from treats and other foods with processed sugar, such as soft drinks.

Gavins perspective is shared through journal excerpts along with several father-son conversations from during the 30 days.

There have definitely been times when Ive really wanted something thats not healthy, and weve been able to talk each other through it, Gavin wrote on Day 16. The other night, I was eating homemade pizza and we talked about how its not healthy to eat another slice just because we want it.

The 208-page book has 30 chapters, one for each day of the challenge, and each chapter is centered around a lesson from the challenge or a life experience that helps contribute to living a healthier lifestyle.

Butler shares about how he got into posting YouTube videos and how it became his familys main source of income, stories from his active childhood, and how he slowly but surely gained weight.

You get more focused on a career and providing for your family than having a healthy body, Butler said. He also shares about his initial weight-loss journey, when he weighed 281 pounds and decided he needed to be healthier.

He signed up to run a marathon, printed the registration and hung it on the refrigerator.

I couldnt even run one mile, he said. I went out for that first run, and I couldnt make it around the block.

The first step was setting a reasonable time frame in which to do it.

I knew that if I worked for six months, I could do it, he said.

He bought a bike and started riding it on a trail along Venice Beach.

I kept going farther and farther every day, he said. I worked up until I could ride my bike 20 miles in one outing, and that was a huge accomplishment for me.

Then he ran the marathon, along with a handful of others. He documented his journey on the ShayLoss YouTube channel.

Butler took the lessons he learned about health and losing weight while training for the marathon and applied them during the 30-day challenge with his son.

The secrets of life are hiding in the word cliche, Butler said. He pointed to eating fruits and vegetables, drinking enough water, getting enough sleep, exercising and working hard.

After the marathons, he was burned out with running, and eventually 30 pounds crept back on, he said.

When the book opportunity came along, he decided he wanted to do the 30-day challenge with his son and write about it.

I just want to motivate people to realize that we have a limited amount of time on this earth and we are alive on it right now, he said. And these memories were creating with our loved ones are the most valuable commodities you can have. In order have more of them and better of them, we need to have healthy bodies.

Butler recognizes hes not an expert.

Ive never claimed to be an expert, he writes in the book. Im just a regular dude trying to lose weight and get in shape, and trying to bring his son along on the journey to find healthier ways to live his life. Regular dudes fail. They mess up and have to start all over again.

Now, his New Years resolution is to not drink soft drinks.

Since Jan. 1, Butler and Gavin have been posting videos representing each chapter of their book along with exercises to do at home on the ShayLoss YouTube channel.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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