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Arianne Brown: A child in motion is a beautiful thing even if with a broken femur
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Arianne Brown's 2-year-old son, Audi, sits on the couch after breaking his femur. - photo by Arianne Brown
Just two weeks ago, I was asking my 2-year-old son, Audi, to please stop climbing, jumping off of things and running around because I didn't want him to get hurt. Now I am looking at him completely immobilized in a cast that covers his entire right leg and goes all the way up to his chest in what the medical professionals call a spica cast.

Yes, even after my constant pleas for my son to not act like a 2-year-old, he did just that. In failed attempt to climb the coat rack to retrieve his jacket, he fell along with the rack, breaking his femur.

The excitement didn't end there, and he was awarded an ambulance ride to Primary Children's Hospital and an overnight stay in a room with a view. And when I say awarded, I am not at all thinking about the bill that will soon make its way to our mailbox (wink, wink).

In the days since the accident, I have given a lot of thought to how we could prevent another one like it. After all, our family has endured a broken finger, foot, collarbone, separated shoulder and now a broken femur. We've been glued, stapled and stitched back together several times over, including my recent knee-splitting incident.

It makes me wonder. Are we accident prone or reckless? Are we neglectful parents? All of the above?

Probably.

However, I'd like to think that there's a better and more accurate explanation to why these things keep happening: Its because we are always in motion.

As much as I beg my kids to stop climbing, jumping, running around and wrestling, they do so because it is in their nature. And if I'm honest, it is in my nature to do all of those things, too even at the age of 35!

Truth be told, when I ask my kids to slow down, I am really enjoying watching them move around and play, knowing full well that the odds are someone will eventually get hurt.

Simply put, children in motion is a beautiful thing. The way they fearlessly climb from chair to countertop to cupboard in order to get a cookie shows not only strategic agility but also determination, independence and even a little defiance.

When my 4-year-old climbs on top of the mantle only to launch himself onto the cushioned ottoman below, it shows physical accuracy, bravery and intelligence because a soft landing is always best.

And even though my 2-year-old is currently experiencing the consequences of an unconquered climb, I don't think it will slow him down for long nor will I force him to do so.

Because I'd much rather watch my children run, jump and climb with the chance of getting hurt than sit still and never know what it's like to fall or better yet, be lucky enough to spend a month in a spica cast.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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