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After being stabbed 32 times, Melissa Dohme was left to die; now she is marrying the man who saved h
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After being stabbed over 30 times by her ex-boyfriend, Melissa Dohme said, I decided I was never going to date anybody again.

No one blamed her for making that choice. Her relationship with her high school boyfriend, Robert Burton, escalated to deadly abuse before she even realized. Melissa told BBC that when they began dating, Robert was charming and funny and kind of like a gentle giant." However, when she tried to break up with him, he changed entirely.

He began to abuse her emotionally and physically

Melissa wanted to go to college and pursue her dream of becoming a nurse. This upset Robert and he reacted rashly by manipulating Melissa and saying that she should be helping him, not abandoning him, and threatening to kill himself if she left him.

But his mental abuse escalated to physical abuse. One night, Robert became upset and attacked Melissa who was luckily able to escape and call the police. Robert was sentenced to 10 hours in jail for domestic battery.

Three months later, Robert called Melissa in the middle of the night. She said, [Robert] had gone to court that morning for the battery charge and said he needed closure from our terrible relationship and just wanted a hug. If I saw him just one more time he said he would leave me alone forever."

He tried to kill her

Melissa knew it was a bad idea to meet Robert. She said, I didnt listen to my intuition telling me it was wrong, and that was the biggest mistake I ever made. I took my pepper spray and phone, and thought I could protect myself if I needed to.

When he embraced Melissa, Robert opened a switch blade and stabbed her 32 times.

Melissa said, He left me lying in the road and I thought I was going to die. I just prayed to God to save me and give me a chance.

God gave her that chance.

A miracle happened

Miraculously, a boy and girl walked by and witnessed Robert stabbing Melissa. They called the police, which Robert away and heralded the help Melissa needed to survive.

An emergency response team arrived at the scene. People don't usually survive a stabbing as brutal as Melissa's, but the team saved her life. CBS news reported her stating, I remember when I woke up in the hospital and I remember just thinking Im alive and was just so relieved and thankful to be alive.

Her life was forever changed

Melissa was alive, but she was different. No longer did she want to be a nurse, instead, she wanted to use her story to help other abuse victims. No longer did she want to marry, because she vowed to be single forever. But while following her dream to help abuse victims, Melissa finally realized she could love again.

Meeting the love of her life

Melissa met her future husband nearly a year after he saved her life. Cameron Hill was a firefighter who responded to her stabbing and was invited to hear her story at an event for advocating abuse victims. He attended the event and met Melissa and her mom. After talking to them, he invited them to have dinner at the fire department and offered Melissa his support.

Melissa said, I couldnt stop thinking about Cameron. I knew that I had feelings for him but I was trying to ignore them. I wondered, Am I feeling this way because he was one of the firemen who helped me? But it didnt take her long to realize that wasnt the case. The more we talked the more we realized we had in common.

Cameron supported her in everything. He took her to the shooting range to help her qualify for a concealed weapons permit, and he stood by her side when she had to face Robert in court.

After dating for a few years, Melissa was invited to throw the first pitch at a Tampa Bay Rays baseball game. Cameron came out of the dugout to hand Melissa the baseball. On it he had written, Will you marry me?

Of course Melissa said yes, and proved that beautiful things can be born from tragedy. "When I look back on that night, I can't think of it as all bad anymore because I met Cameron," she told the Tampa Bay Times. "He's the one I've been waiting for. My fairy tale."
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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