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9 little ways to make your husband feel butterflies again
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If your relationship is in a rut, here are some simple things you can do to make your husband start crushing on you again. - photo by Hannah Chudleigh
You two still love each other but the days are getting duller. Your husband is a great man, but sometimes it's difficult to rekindle the spark you once had. If your husband needs a bit of a nudge, here are some small ways to give the him butterflies he had when you were dating:

1. Take him on a date

If he's been the one planning most of the dates, it will be a pleasant surprise to have you take the lead for a change. Plan something that you know he will love and leave him feeling valued and pleasantly surprised.

2. Cook together

The way to a man's heart is through his stomach and you'll have a fun time together trying something new.

3. Do something active outside together

Whether that means playing a sport together or just going on a walk, doing something outside not only means spending time with your spouse, but also getting a breath of fresh air.

4. Rub his back

It's affectionate and relaxing, and physical contact builds emotional bonds too. Try blocking out an evening for his and hers backrubs with a favorite movie on in the background.

5. Give him a framed picture of the two of you

Pick a photo from one of your favorite memories together. It's a visual reminder of your good times and how much you love each other. He can hang it on a wall, put it on his desk at work, or another place where he'll remember how much he loves you.

6. Say thank you

Researchers named this a critical trait to staying in love. Let your man know how much you appreciate him. Thank him for the little things he does for you and the things he does to help others, and he'll start feeling valued. Leave him a note, tell him in person, send a text just let him feel appreciated.

7. Connect with him emotionally

Emotional connection is vital to stay attracted to each other. Since men are stereotypically seen as less emotional, it can be damaging if you aren't understanding what he's feeling. According to this study, a great way to get him to connect to you emotionally is to be there for him when he is sad or disappointed.

8. Take a road trip

Having an adventure brings life back into your relationship. Those long drives give you and your spouse time to discuss your relationship and spend time together.

9. Love yourself

Confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear! Harvard psychology professor Craig Malkin says that everyone prefers someone who is confident. Feel free to be yourself. Skip voicing or even thinking any negative comments about yourself, and embrace whatever body shape you have. He loves you for you and you will certainly get butterflies when you surprise him a confident kiss.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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