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7 things most wives wish their husbands understood better
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Do you wish you could understand your wife better? Here are 7 things that may help you out. - photo by Megan Shauri
Lets face it, men and women are different. We think differently, we act differently and we express ourselves differently. Most of us dont mind the differences, in fact, they attracted us to you in the first place. But there are times when we wish there were certain things our husbands could at least understand a bit better. Here are seven of those things:

1. We may honestly not know how were feeling

It can be hard for husbands to keep up with our emotional mood swings, but its also hard for us! One minute were fine, and the next we are crying, mad, or laughing hysterically. The worst part is, sometimes we dont even know what caused the sudden switch. Instead of getting frustrated or mad, just hold our hand and be there for us. Dont take it personally: it is not you, it is us; we realize that. Now, if we could only figure out why were crying.

2. We dont always want a solution

When we come to you with a problem or concern, we are not looking for a solution. Most the time we just want to vent and have you commiserate with us, not jump into problem solving mode. Of course we value your opinion, and we may want some advice, but wait for us to ask. And if we dont ask, just listen. Solving the problem isn't what we need right now.

3. We need to just cuddle

Women like to cuddle. We like hugs, holding hands and resting our heads on your shoulder. We dont have to have a huge romantic evening every night, just snuggling on the couch with a movie can be enough. Dont forget the tender touches; a sweet kiss on the forehead means so much.

4. We love when you help us

Even though we try to do it all and seem to have everything under control, we won't complain if you decide to step in and help out....especially without asking. Do something unexpected like picking up (or making) dinner. Give her the night off from bedtime duty. Or instead of handling a task yourself, just help her out. Two hands are better than one and now you have time to bond while completing a task.

5. Being a good dad is extremely sexy

Seeing you interact with the kids is one of our favorite things. Seeing how you love them, hold them, play with them and talk to them makes our hearts swell. We love watching your interactions and seeing the love in our childs eyes for you. There is just something extremely sexy about watching the man we love most in the world be changed (in a good way) by someone so small and precious.

6. We married you for your personality, not your salary

Career, salaries and success are important to most (if not all) men. We get that you feel your career defines you, but unless were a gold digger, we did not marry you for your bank account. We love you for your kindness, sense of humor and determination. We support you and we want you to be happy. That's all.

7. We arent vague on purpose

We are not trying to confuse you; it's just how we communicate. It's hard for us to be direct, because we feel that is too aggressive or rude. It's not that if you loved us more, you'd know what we mean; more like we don't realize you are confused. Women tend to pick up on every little look, body movement and tone of voice, reading into it more than it probably means and we think men do the same thing.

We know it's hard to figure out our mood swings and indirectness but we dont mean to be confusing, its just who we are. Hopefully this article will give you some insight into what we go through and how much we love you for understanding!
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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