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6 ways to be serious about your faith but lighten up about life
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Just because you have a strong testimony in a greater being does not mean you are a stick in the mud. You can still have fun, be respectful and easygoing about life. Here are some ways to do just that. - photo by Megan Shauri
Just because you are religious doesn't mean you have to be constantly serious. There are ways to still be a good member of your congregation, while being a good-natured member of your community. Here are some examples.

1. Live your religion

The number one thing you can do to be faithful in your religion is to live it. I am not aware of any religion that tells us to think of ourselves as better than others not of our faith, to be disrespectful or mean, or to judge and attack others. On the contrary; we are told to love one another, to be kind to our neighbors and to serve our friends. Living what you are taught in church is the best way to honor your religion. It helps us be the best type of person that others can appreciate without even knowing what church you belong to. It is not necessary to precede every action by first explaining what religion you are.

2. Respect others

Some people feel that people who are super religious only respect those of the same religion. Prove these people wrong. Respect everyone. Be open to talking about what you believe, but dont close up as soon as someone else shares their ideals. Be respectful and treat them as you would hope they treat you as you share your beliefs.

3. Be open to new ideas, cultures and people

Again most, if not all religions, preach that whatever Deity they believe in is color blind. They do not care if you are black, white, brown, male, female, old, young, rich, poor, American, Chinese, Latino or European; they just love you for who you are. Be open to learning about new ideas, people and cultures. Love people for their good parts and try and see how your own life can change for the better by observing others. Just because someone believes something different from what you do does not mean they have nothing to teach you.

4. Be happy

One way to be serious about your religion, yet light about life, is to be happy. You may have trials and tribulations, but a positive outlook can change how you view your situation. Just because something negative is happening to you does not give you the right to blame your unhappiness on your religion or even the actions of others. Take responsibility for your own happiness. Find the good in every situation and remember even when you are at your lowest point, there is still hope and someone there who loves you and will never leave you.

5. Dont preach all the time

At times it is tempting to turn every situation into a sermon. This can get annoying to your friends who do not share your beliefs. Sometimes a friend just needs you to be a friend and not a spiritual adviser. This does not mean you have to check your religion at the door and never let it influence the advice you give, but rather it means that you can be friends with someone without the need to convert them to your religion.

6. Dont isolate yourself from others

It is easy to only socialize with people of your same religion. Lots of congregations have their own activities, celebrations and groups that get together on a regular bases. It is simple to stay within this circle and not make friends with others, but that is only limiting yourself. You could be missing out on some great friendships if you do not venture outside of your religion. Dont think that those who do not share your religion cannot be friends with you, even if you tend to disagree about religion. It can be a topic you do not bring up, or something you can agree to disagree about. If you cherish the person, focus on what you do have in common rather than what you dont.

Your religion is often times a big part of your life. It influences your actions, attitude and outlook on trials you may face, but it should not limit you from experiencing life. By making new friends, traveling, learning about other cultures and religions, and living what you are taught are ways to confirm your own believes.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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