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6 ways to avoid an awkward date
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Let's be honest, weve all been there...and it wasn't pretty. - photo by Emily Cummings
If you want your dates to be awkward, Im sure there is an article to teach you how to sharpen those skills. However, if you are looking to avoid uncomfortable silences, strange situations, and meeting the whole family prematurely, you are in the right place. Not that any method is foolproof, there are a couple of things you can do to avoid the so...whats your favorite color? conversation all together.

Bring a purse

How else are you supposed to carry your cue cards? So maybe take metaphorical cue cards instead of whipping out actual speaking prompts because THAT would be awkward. Instead, do a little conversation planning beforehand to avoid long stretches of silence. Pull up some facts about the movie everyone and their dog has seen so Have you seen Star Wars yet? doesnt just end in a yes or no answer. Have a couple good talking points to avoid uncomfortable topics all together.

Wear a watch

Or just set up a specific amount of time for your first few dates. Let your date know you are free for lunch until 2:00, so you avoid the marathon date. No matter how well things are going the first couple hours that will die out if lunch turns into a movie, then dinner, then ice skating, then gelato tasting, then meeting the parents, then museum hopping, then the date drop off. If youve only allotted an hour or so for the date and things are going well, dont fret. All you have to do is just push back that appointment you set up to be at 3:00 instead of 2:00.

Call your dentist

Or at least brush your teeth really well. Proper hygiene is a large part of proper date etiquette, but you wouldnt want to have anything stuck in your teeth when you are smiling consistently on your date.

People naturally mimic others behavior, so, if you are being happy, smiley, and friendly on your date, your mystery man should mirror that same behavior. Everyone likes being around a happy person, so even if the date doesnt go as planned, everyone involved will feel like they had a good time.

Carry a map

Setting up a specific location for your date is an efficient way to skip out on the uncomfortable. That way, you wont end up eating dinner at his house with his roommates, parents, and cousins. If it helps, visit the place beforehand so you arent caught off guard by the location or the traffic. You can take a peek at the decorations, the wait staff, or the neighboring stores to note on your mental cue cards if you are feeling extra nervous about keeping up a conversation on the spot. Plan on meeting your date there, so you can avoid an uncomfortable drive there and back.

Skip the interview

Everyone loves talking about themselves, so having a few targeted questions to ask your date is a way to skip out on awkward silences. However, dont make this date feel like an interrogation. Try asking questions that are more complex and wont just end in a single word answer. The idea is to start a conversation you both enjoy, instead of just filling up time with words.

Do some stalking

Also known as casual online research, that is. Dont be a creeper and describe every photo in exact detail from his trip 9 years ago, but doing some research can help ease awkwardness. If you know he spent time in Australia, gently lead the conversation to travel and start asking around about bucket lists, or places you both have traveled. Finding a mutual topic helps you avoid basic yes or no questions and instead allows you to actually have a conversation.

I do suppose doing the opposite of these 6 things would guarantee an uncomfortable date if you decide to sabotage your evening out.After all, awkward dates almost make a better story than the ones that go well.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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