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6 things to remember when you can't find someone to marry
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Trouble finding love or getting married? That's OK. Living the single life isn't all that bad. - photo by Herb Scribner
The United States is a nation of singles.

According to a Quartz article, the United States is no longer made up of married couples. In fact, the countrys 128.2 million singles account for 51.2 percent of the population, Quartz reported.

There has even been talk seen in this article from FiveThirtyEight that marriage overall is on the decline. But that doesn't mean that society's values have to be too marriage is still something that Americans want, even if they're putting it off for a few years until they've accomplished career goals.

Of course, being single can be painful at points here are nine reasons from Ryan OConnell of Thought Catalog about why being single sucks but there are benefits, too, you may not know about.

Here are six reasons why being single isnt always such a bad thing.

Being single is an art

Sure, being single isnt always easy.

But it is an art.

According to C. De Lima of Tiny Buddha, a website that promotes learning through wisdom, you can be single and happy at the same time by deepening your relationships with friendsa nd family.

De Lima wrote about her experience in a relationship for eight years before finding herself single at 31 years old. At first, she was afraid of being single at that age, but soon she learned to come to terms with it as friends and family gathered around to support her.

And being single allowed her to see that she shouldnt be afraid of love anymore, mostly because change and finding someone new to love is always good for growing and developing a personality.

Sometimes change is the best thing for us, she wrote, as it opens us up to new activities and environments.

The Bible says its OK

If youre worried about being single, look no farther than the Bible to find reasons why its OK to stay that way.

According to Open Bible, a Bible information website, there are a variety of verses within the word of God that point towards the benefits of being single. Many popular biblical figures like Isaiah, Job and Ruth preach about how being single can make people more spiritual and closer to God. It may even be a part of Gods plan.

But its Corinthians 7:26-40 that truly shows some of the benefits of running solo. The verse says the single life allows believers to focus more deeply on creating a stronger relationship with the Lord, instead of with a spouse.

"The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord," the verse reads. "But the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided."

You gain a new network

Oh, you feel like youre #ForeverAlone?

Better think again.

As Kovie Biakolo of Thought Catalog points out, being single isnt necessarily alientating you from forming relationships with others. In fact, you join a whole class of people the majority of the population, as previously mentioned who are in a similar scenario.

[B]eing single isnt a death sentence, Biakolo wrote. It isnt a disaster natural or man-made that should make anyone feel inadequate. And you know what? Many (not all) single people do feel inadequate."

So while married couples can unite for their play-dates, singles can unite in their search for family.

Single people can change the world

Yes, you read that correctly. Singles are changing the world.

Forbes Alyson Krueger wrote in her story 9 reasons to love being single about how many singles are helping todays society and culture. She specifically referred to a book called Going Solo, written by Eric Klinenberg, that takes a look into the lives of modern single Americans.

Since there are so many singles more than 200 million across the world, theres bound to be some changes in the way the world works, according to Klinenbergs book, reviewed by Forbes.

Its one of the worlds biggest social changes in the last 50 years, Klinenberg wrote in his book, according to Forbes. Its the equivalent of being an anthropologist and discovering some giant island out there with 277 million people.

Being single prepares you for marriage

The single life gives you a chance to find the right person for you. Singles can move through different potential suitors and find the person whos going to make them happy for the rest of eternity.

And there are more benefits to getting involved in the dating scene than just finding the right person for you. The Christian Broadcasting Network highlighted that being single can help singles become more familiar with gender roles and develop their own personalities. But most of all, dating can prepare singles for marriage, CBN reported.

Dating can help couples acquire the needed knowledge and skills for a successful marriage, according to CBN. For example, dating helps develop a better understanding of each other's attitudes and behaviors, how to get along, and can increase your ability to discuss and solve relational problems.

You wont be one of these awkward people

OK, time for a little fun.

Take a look at BuzzFeeds list of awkward engagement pictures.

Once you see some of these awkward snapshots, youll definitely be OK with being single for a bit longer.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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