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5 precious surprises to send your sweetheart through the mail
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We don't often think of sending those who live with us something through the mail, which is why it is a fabulous gift idea. - photo by Megan Shauri
It is not very often we get something unexpected through the mail anymore. Usually, the only things that come are bills, advertisements and the occasional order from Amazon. So, if you are looking for a great gift idea for a special occasion or for no reason at all, try sending your sweetheart one of these surprises.

A love note

Love notes are special. They are simple yet meaningful. To handwrite a note takes time and thought and shows how you really feel. A sentiment of your affection like this is the perfect way to express your love to your significant other. And, sending the note through the mail is incredibly romantic. It is not an email that took only 3 minutes to write and send. Beyond the actual writing of the note, a lot more is also said by the act of finding paper and an envelope, paying for a stamp and walking to the mailbox to send it off.

A postcard

When was the last time you got a postcard? Doesnt it just make you happy to see one in the mail? A picture from some place your loved one has been with a short note on the back. So simple yet so thoughtful. The next time you are on a business trip or away from your honey, send a postcard. Even if it arrives after youre back, it is a fun surprise to get.

An invitation

Sending a formal invitation is a fun way to kick off a date or trip. Instead of asking your wife what she wants to do for date night, send her an invitation (through the mail) inviting her out for the evening with you. You will for sure get her attention. She will feel valued and appreciated and probably melt at the chivalry of being asked so formally.

A gift card

Does your significant other have a favorite shopping website or clothing store she loves? Does she hardly ever feel justified shopping there? Send her a gift card through the mail. If you tell her to just go and buy something, she never will. Or, if you simply give her money, she will probably spend it on something for someone else. A gift card can only be used at the place it is from, and if it is sent through the mail, you'll be sending a clear message that you really want her to spend money on something for herself.

An edible arrangement or a bouquet of flowers

It is always nice when your sweetheart brings home flowers or chocolates, but it is even nicer when he has it delivered. Having the gift show up suprisingly at your door, the anticipation of reading the card to find out who it is from and realizing of course it is from your one true love is a very special experience.

The best part about all of these mailed gifts is they are unexpected. Imagine the surprise and joy on your sweethearts face when she is looking through the mail and comes across a handwritten note from you or a gift card to her favorite store. If you are the one who usually gets the mail, send the surprise through the mail to her work. It will brighten her day and put a smile on her face. Best of all, she will know you are thinking about her. And remember, you can never send too many gifts through the mail.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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