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37 would you rather questions everyone who wants to become a parent should answer
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A new study has found that parents value tech and gadgets over babies, leading to a loss in infertility. Do you feel the same? - photo by Herb Scribner
It seems Americans have traded babies, diapers and cribs for iPhones, FitBits and TVs.

A new study published in Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B has found that theres been a drop in fertility rates in the United States because Americans have decided to buy new gadgets and devices instead of have babies.

The study, done by researchers at Emory University, found that people have placed so much more value in purchasing materials and improving their social status that it has led to lower fertility rates.

"As competition becomes more focused on social climbing, as opposed to just putting food on the table, people invest more in material goods and achieving social status, and that affects how many children they have," anthropologist Paul Hooper said in a statement.

This is mostly seen in areas where there are intense labor markets and intense competition for jobs, Hooper said. Since many countries across the world have social inequality, which only increases competition to find the best jobs, theres been an increasing dip in fertility rates, he said.

And thats true: There has been a significant drop. The U.S. birth rate dropped to a historic low the past few years with the number of births between 2012 and 2013 dropping to below 20,000, even though theres been an increase in the number of women who are in their childbearing years, Forbes reported.

In fact, the birth rate per thousand women fell to 62.5 in 2013 the lowest number ever recorded, according to Forbes.

This rate fell and then leveled off with the economys rise and fall, Forbes reported. As the economy grew in 2012, so did the birth rate. But this more recent drop shows a different trend.

What concerns experts is not the fall itself, but the fact that it accelerated when we were supposedly experiencing an economic recovery, Forbes reported.

While this fits with the Emory University studys findings, theres a number of reasons that fertility rates have dropped. For one, women are having children at older ages than before, mostly because they have put their careers ahead of childbearing. Women have also put an importance on finding a husband whos financially stable with a steady job, The Washington Post reported, at the same time that men have seen a loss in jobs.

Couples also spend too much money on their career moves and material goods that they simply cant afford to have children, according to the Emory University study.

But placing value in material goods over children isnt always the best approach, and it may soon change with this generations group of youngsters. A Pew Research Center study from 2011 found millennials put parenthood ahead of other life choices, like marriage.

And, according to Millennial Marketing, a Web platform that looks at how millennials fit into todays market, it seems young Americans appreciate family values over making money and embracing materialism.

Millennials want stable families, and have often said they want to put their families ahead of careers and gadgets. In fact, millennials plan to do this as they become parents by teaching their children that good family values outweigh new tech gadgets.

An emphasis on travel, learning and experiences is characteristic of their generation and a pattern they are likely to carry over into their parenting, according to Millennial Marketing. Again, this may be a function of necessity as well as values. Whatever the reason, look for houses to be smaller and greener, toys to be fewer and family activities to be more common.

Experts often recommend this for all parents. Experiences and good behavior matter most when it comes to parenting, not the materials children get from stores.

What I want is for my kids to remember horseback riding, to remember spotting the starfish at low tide, to remember that time they were playing in the cold California waves and Mom went in all the way up to her waist even though she was wearing jeans, Erika Janes of Parents magazine wrote. To remember whittling the bark off of a walking stick found by the side of the road. To remember that the best things from vacations (and from life) can come home with you but not in a suitcase.

Still, the choice is up to parents (or soon-to-be parents) about what they value more. Here are some "would you rather" questions to help you determine what you want your child (or future child) to value in his or her life.

Your childs first toy: a toy smartphone or a set of building blocks?

Would you rather send your child to private school or public school?

Would you rather have your baby sleep in a crib or in your room?

Would you rather give your child a cellphone at age 10 or 16?

Would you rather sing your child a lullaby or have them listen to Coldplay?

Would you rather go to the beach with some friends or watch Toy Story?

Would you rather watch cartoons or sleep in late?

Would you rather hike or sit and eat potato chips?

Would you rather go to church on Sunday or spend money?

Would you rather listen to Drake or Taylor Swift?

Would you rather watch American Idol or The Voice?

Would you rather eat ham or turkey for Thanksgiving?

Would you rather eat at a restaurant or at home?

Would you rather text or call your significant other?

Would you rather watch TV at dinner or have a conversation?

Would you rather work 9 to 5 or 4 to midnight?

Would you rather send your child into time out or encourage good behavior?

Would you rather teach your child a Bible story or have them watch House of Cards?"

Would you rather buy your child the new Apple Watch or donate money to charity?

Would you rather blow out your own birthday candles or have your child do it?

Would you rather give birth at home or at a hospital?

Would you rather give your child a used book or a Kindle?

Would you rather your child watch "Barney" or "Sesame Street?"

Would you rather binge-wach a TV show or read your child fairy tales?

Would you rather let your child watch Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton?

Would you rather take your child to work with you or send them to a baby sitter?

Would you rather buy your child a stuffed bear or a bike?

Would you rather draw with your child or leave him or her alone?

Would you rather your child become a STEM major or an arts major?

Would you rather your child read To Kill a Mockingbird or Captain Underpants?"

Would you rather your child be the popular kid or be comfortable with his or her self?

Would you rather change a diaper for No. 1 or No. 2?

Would you rather give your child cloth diapers or regular diapers?

Would you rather your childs first word be "mom" or "dad?"

Would you rather your child smell good or have soft skin?

Would you rather your child invest in stocks or buy a bunch of mint-condition comics?

Would you rather your child grow up to be successful or have a happy family?
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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