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15 compliments your husband needs to hear from you
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Use these compliments on your husband and watch his confidence soar. - photo by Candace Johnson
Its very inexpensive to give a compliment - Mark Twain

I grow a garden in my backyard, and it reminds me in many ways of my marriage. If I give the garden good compost, water and plenty of care, it flourishes. When I forget about the garden, even just for one day, the plants start to wilt and the soil begins to dry up. If I let it go unattended for too long, I most certainly would lose some plants and have to put in considerable effort to revive them again. Compliments to your husband are much like garden care.

Life coach Shannon Battle says, In a world where people often feel alone and disconnected, a simple compliment triggers feelings of self-worth. As you compliment the man you love, you too will feel a true sense of appreciation and achievement as it makes your husband a more confident man. Research has shown that compliments help improve performance in a similar way to receiving a cash reward.

Try using these compliments on your husband and watch his confidence soar:

1. I believe in you.

What you think of yourself defines your life. So when someone believes in you, you can believe in your potential. Letting your husband know you believe in him, allows him to achieve his true potential.

2. You are my best friend.

A group at the University of Virginia studied brain scans from 22 different people. Scientists discovered that the brain activity of a person in danger, versus when a friend is, is essentially the same. Our self comes to include who we become close to, says James Coan, Psychologist and Director of the study. Reminding your husband that you care about him more than yourself can bring you closer together.

3. Im proud of you.

Be sure to let your husband know you are proud of him. Build his self-esteem. Never tease him in public or put him down in a hurtful way. If you build him up, he will perform his best for you.

4. I forgive you.

Don't allow resentment to hurt your marriage. Studies have found that the act of forgiveness can reap huge rewards for your health, including improving sleep, reducing pain, and reducing levels of anxiety, depression and stress.

Let your husband know that when he has made a mistake, you will forgive, forget and work towards regained trust and admiration.

5. I trust you.

Let your husband know you trust his decisions, his character, his intentions and his love. If he feels secure with you, he wont go looking for confidence from anyone else.

6. You're right.

Your husband won't always be right, but when he is its OK to tell him that. Men want to be acknowledged that they are intelligent. Give him a confident boost like this and you will be the one reaping the benefits as he falls even more in love with you.

7. You bring me joy.

Aren't we all just looking for happiness? If your husband knows he is the one that adds the most joy to your life, he will continually try and bring happiness to you.

8. I am attracted to you.

Fan the flame, wives! Just because youre married doesn't mean you should stop telling him how handsome he is to you. You might think he knows that, but dont assume. He needs to know hes the only one you see. This compliment may even lead to a romantic night in.

9. I respect you.

Men pride themselves on their wives respect. Remind him often that you support him and respect his decisions and the way he handles himself.

10. Thank you for helping me.

Dont forget to thank your husband. He wants to help and make you happy, but he also wants to know it means something to you and you dont just take it for granted. Praise him for all he does for you.

11. I love you.

This is the best compliment of all. Unconditional love is the greatest gift you can offer to your husband. He wont go looking for love elsewhere if he know he has all the love he needs from you.

12. You are so smart.

Likely, your husband has worked hard the whole time you've been married. Over that time he has gained knowledge in certain skills or trades. Let him know you are proud of his success and how you love the knowledge he has gained.

13. I love spending time with you.

If your husband feels valued he will choose you over others. Make the time you spend with your spouse meaningful and fulfilling. He will in turn do the same for you.

14. I am safe with you.

A man wants to protect his greatest belongings. He takes a sense of pride in his strength. Also remind him you feel safe coming to him with concerns, problems and doubts and that you love the way he handles the situation.

15. I miss you.

Letting your husband know you want him around will make him more excited to be with you. If he knows his presence makes a positive difference in your life he will want to be with you more than anyone else.

Enjoy the more confident, loving man you will soon find after complimenting his greatest strengths.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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