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12 people reveal why they stayed with a partner who CHEATED on them
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Discovering that your partner cheated on you is a detestation beyond anything else. And when you're dealing with that pain, you have many hard decisions to make about how to progress with your life. The obvious answer may be to leave the partner who cheated on you. However, there may be many reasons to stay and shoulder the challenge of repairing the damaged relationship.

While you should never stay with a partner who repeatedly destroys your trust or is physically or mentally abusive, it's important to remember that sometimes the brave decision to stay with a partner who cheated is the best choice for you and your family.

Here, 12 people who stayed with a partner who cheated on them reveal why they decided to stay. Hopefully this can offer you perspective as you choose how to move forward.

1. Because he loved her most

"[I] ended up deciding she was the one I loved most. So that's why I stayed with her. I trust her completely (again), and in some ways the emotional trauma of that experience has brought us closer (in other ways not). It's not always easy and I occasionally have second thoughts, but that's true of any relationship. I'm happy with my decision though, and she makes me happy and vice versa."

2. Because it's easier

"In my experience I became Dependant (sic) on this person, had imagined a life with her and everything. it's harder to lose all of that than it is to just forget they hurt you."

3. Because they have a kid

"I would have divorced her immediately but for our daughter's wellbeing (sic)."

4. Because it made him a better person

"The ... thing that came from this that I am proud of is that I have become a better person. I trust more openly and love more deeply. This is because I try harder than I ever have."

5. Because she's working to fix her mistake

"I can't really say why I decided to stay in the relationship to be honest. Relationships are complicated. When you've been with someone such a large portion of your life, it's difficult to imagine life without them. She's worked very hard to help pick up the pieces. But, I do continue to struggle with everything that's happened. The hurt doesn't go away, and I still have a difficult time trusting her. I still get mad and sometimes pretty depressed, but I stay..."

6. Because she has cancer

"My wife was diagnosed with ... cancer a number of months ago and her prognosis is not good."

7. Because he's a good person

"I stay with him because he is a great man and father. He knows I am learning to forgive him very slowly."

8. Because she wants to help him change

"I'm afraid that I might still be with him because he is a broken man (divorced due to cheating) and I need to help him become a better person. NOT that I can change him, he can only decide to do that himself... But I am very much a 'Jack Shepherd' in that I feel I have to fix everything. He has bent over backwards to repair what he broke in us. But the trust part is definitely a struggle from day to day."

9. Because people make mistakes

"People do make mistakes too. Once is a mistake, twice is a pattern in my book. I'm not giving a third chance with my bf but i love him and he's still only done it the once."

10. Because marriage is a committment

"I stayed because I wanted to believe, because my couples therapist said to, because trying and putting faith in my spouse was what I promised her and because I live up to my promises."

11. Because he admitted it

"A few reason. Biggest one is that I still love him and he admitted it to me as soon as he'd done it. It was long distance at the time so it was a very unique situation. rebuilding trust was difficult but its almost all back.

12. Because love

"The main answer is love. It's hard to find someone you really fit well with and connect with. I thought it deserved a second try/chance."

The full responses were posted on Reddit here, here and here.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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