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10 ways youre making your life difficult
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Stop making life harder than it has to be. Here are 9 things to avoid if you want life to run a little more smoothly. - photo by Courtnie Erickson
It is very uncommon to hear the phrase life is easy, because it certainly is not. Life is full of challenges that will test us to the very core. However, life is often only as hard as you make it. Here are 9 things to avoid if you want life to run a little more smoothly.

1. You dont ask for help

If you are having a hard time, ask someone for assistance. You can ask for small tasks, such as preparing dinner for your family, watching your children while you handle the situation or asking God for help through prayer to overcome your stumbling blocks. Never feel like you have to do everything on your own.

2. You worry

Dont waste your entire life worrying about the small things. Instead, focus and accomplish just one or two things at a time. When you worry about too many things at once, it will wear you down and start to affect your overall mood and demeanor.

3. You stay up late

Sleep is so important. In fact, according to the National Sleep Foundation, sleep problems can significantly diminish health, alertness and safety. Untreated sleep disorders have been linked to hypertension, heart disease, stroke, depression, diabetes and other chronic disorders. When you dont get enough sleep, you are affecting many facets of your life.

4. You avoid church

Practicing religion actually helps you have a better outlook on life. A study, based at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, found that religious 12th graders in the United States have higher self-esteem and a better outlook on life than non-religious ones. This can be true for all ages. Attending church gives you hope throughout difficult challenges. Additionally, when you attend church regularly, you become more focused on Christ and you are more apt to ask for his help when you face tough trials.

5. You keep a cluttered home

Did you know the messier your home is, the more stressed you become? When your home is clean and tidy, you have an easier time relaxing. When you keep a tidy home, you dont have to worry about routine tasks around the home and you wont waste precious time looking for that one shoe.

6. You hold grudges

You have control over your own emotions. If you choose to hold a grudge against someone, that is your own doing. Over time, grudges wear you down. Some can even turn into obsessions. Sometimes you may even seek revenge over a grudge, which will cause even more hatred and darkness in your life. Letting things go is the easiest route, and is a sure way to happiness.

7. You dont make time for yourself

Just like in an airplane, you must put your oxygen mask on first before you assist someone else. In life, you need to take care of yourself before you take care of everyone else. This means eating well, and getting regular exercise and adequate rest. It also means to frequently perform activities you enjoy, which will help boost your mental well-being.

8. You dont spend enough time with those you love

Spending time together as a family produces strong benefits. For example, teenagers with parents at home after school are less likely to experience emotional distress. Additionally, children who spend quality time outside the home with their dads experience better academic success. Spending time with those you love is something that is easy and worth it.

9. You dont show your affection

For some people, saying I love you can be a struggle. But is is important. Your words and actions toward those around you make a huge impact on your daily life. One study shows that words of affection help lower hormones that are elevated during stressful times.

You dont have to live life frustrated and overwhelmed. By paying attention to the small things you do each day, youll be able to climb life's mountains with much more ease.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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