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10 ways to reconnect with your kids
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Life is busy. Here is a list of ten very doable ways to reconnect with your kids today. - photo by Lacey Pappas
Life is busy. Each week is full of after-school activities, appointments, homework assignments, and a million to-dos. If youre like me, you drift off to sleep at night telling yourself that tomorrow you will make extra time for your kids. Then the day flies by again, and you find yourself saying the same thing.

Here is a list of ten very doable ways to reconnect with your kids today.

1. Put your phone down.

From 2-year-olds to teens, kids know when your focus is not entirely on them. Even if you just glance at your phone, they will notice. Keep your phone out of sight to give your full, undivided attention.

2. Be present.

Be there for your kids during important moments of the day: when they wake up, get home from school and go to bed. This is when they need you most.

3. Eat dinner with entire family.

Isnt it difficult to get EVERYONE together for dinner at the same time? Aim to have dinner all together at least three times during the week. Plan ahead, check schedules and suggest working parents arrange to be home at a specific time for dinner on specific nights.

4. Enjoy a night of family fun each week.

Designate a specific night during the week for family fun, when everyone can play games, make a dessert together, watch a favorite movie or just chat. Family time focused on simply being together is always a good idea. Your kids (and you) will start looking forward to it.

5. Switch up the routine.

Do you feel like a broken record during the week with a monotonous daily schedule that repeats day after day? Eat dinner, do homework, bathe, get ready for bed, read, lights out, and start all over the very next day. Why not shake things up? After dinner, go on a bike ride. Or, before bed, go lay outside and look at the stars. Better yet, have a dance party in the kitchen! Anything to break up the nightly routine will be a fun surprise to your kids.

6. Spend one-on-one time with each child.

Isnt one-on-one time the best with your children? Guess what? They think so too. Focus on one child at a time and let him or her pick an activity you can do together: reading a book, going for a walk, playing soccer, jumping on the tramp, and so on. You may be surprised at what your child picks. Try to do this ritual monthly with each child.

7. Talk about your day too.

Does this conversation sound familiar?

You: What did you do at school today? Child: Nothing.

If you have a child who never gives many details about their day, let me teach you a trick. Tell your child all about your day with specifics. For example, say I vacuumed the family room, talked to your grandma, fed the dogs and gave them water, ate a sandwich for lunch, worked on the computer, did the dishes and mopped the kitchen floor. Andthats it. After you mention all of these specifics to your children, they will want to tell you specifics about their days too.

8. Take advantage of the car ride.

Do you find yourself playing taxi throughout the day too often? Take advantage of this time in the car by asking your kids questions. Turn down the music, look at them through the rear-view mirror and chat. Point out fun things you see through the window, ask them what their favorite song is right now, talk about a specific friend at school or just talk about the weather. Opening these lines of communication will help them feel comfortable to talk to you about anything and everything.

9. Share a positive and a negative part of the day.

At dinner, have everyone share a good and a bad thing that happened to them that day. You may have to start the dialogue, but if you are honest with your positive and negative experiences, you will find your kids will be too. When they share the negative experience, dont try to fix whatever is wrong right then. Just let them vent and move on.

10. Go on an adventure.

Try something new youve never done with your kids. Take your kids on that hike youve wanted to go on. Finally try out those batting cages you always drive by. Or set-up a tent in the backyard and camp-out for the night. Letting your kids see an adventurous side to you will help them want to be around you even more. And maybe your cool factor will be upped. Just maybe.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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