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10 life lessons your kid deserves to be taught before becoming an adult
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You've taught them how to tie their shoes, ride a bike, play the piano, and even how to hang a spoon from their nose. Now you need to teach them a few skills that can make a big difference when it comes to becoming an adult. - photo by Cristel Romero
I can still remember how excited my husband and I were to get our first barbecue grill. It was an old one we inherited from his parents. We couldnt wait to fire it up and get some yummy food grilling. There was just one catch: Shamefully, neither one of us knew how to use the grill. It was rather disappointing. It just wasnt something that had ever crossed either of our minds. We never thought to ask, and our parents probably assumed we knew how.

This has come to my mind often as I spend each day helping my own kids learn and grow. I have the responsibility to teach them life skills both big (financial planning) and small (using a barbecue grill). I want to make sure my children are well prepared to enter adulthood.

Here are 10 lessons your kid deserves to be taught before becoming an adult:

1. How to change a tire

This will most likely be necessary knowledge at some point. Teach your kids, male or female, how to change their own tire. You wont always be there to come to his or her rescue, nor will anyone else.

2. Laundry

If you are human, you wear clothes; and those clothes need to be washed. Teach them there isnt a laundry fairy that washes, folds and puts away their clothes every night. There is more to washing clothes than just throwing them into the washer, adding soap and turning it on. Teach them laundry techniques and proper care.

3. Basic sewing

Not only does having a basic knowledge of sewing help you repair a lost button or tear in your shirt, but it teaches an appreciation for how much work goes into just about everything we enjoy; whether it be the clothes we wear, the shoes we put on our feet or the pillow we rest our head on.

4. Lawn care

I grew up with a slew of brothers. I cant remember ever mowing the lawn, and I for sure never touched the weed eater. But my home isnt just my husband's. I should, and want to, contribute to making it look nice. I have had to learn how to help him. Teach your kids the nitty gritty of it too. Dont just teach them how to mow the lawn; teach them how to fertilize it and water it properly.

5. Basic home repairs

If your daughter slams her door and breaks it off the hinges, make her help you fix it. If your son puts a hole in the wall, make him help you repair it. Show your children the time and dedication that goes into taking care of a home.

6. Car maintenance

You might not know how to fix your own car, but you can teach your children the importance of taking care of theirs. Teach them the warning signs and explain what could happen if they dont pay attention. If you can teach them how to change the oil, thats great. If you cant, make sure they know when to take it in for maintenance.

7. Basic cooking skills

Sure, your kid is a pro at making boxed macaroni and cheese; but does he or she know how to make a good, healthy meal? Make sure your children will be able to feed themselves and their future family a nutritious home-cooked meal. Every adult should know how to work the stove, oven, microwave, slow cooker and even the barbecue grill. Show them how to grill a steak, bake a cake and chop and saut vegetables, for example. They dont need to be a gourmet chef; they just need to know the basics.

8. Budget/financial planning

Too often kids see that their parents have "everything," and they assume they will have everything as well. That is not the case. You had to work hard over the years to get where you are. Make sure your children see that. Teach them the importance of budgeting and planning. Money isnt everything, but it sure is something that plays a big part in adulthood. Without the understanding of money and how it works, your kids will find life quite difficult. Planning and budgeting is vital, regardless of how much money you do or do not have.

9. Insurance

After working at the local emergency room for eight years in the registration department, I became alarmed at the amount of kids 18 years old and older that didnt know what insurance they had, or what it even meant to be insured. It is a simple thing, but an important one. Make sure to share with your kids what to do when they need to see a doctor, whether planned or unexpectedly. Discuss what a premium is, and what deductible, copay and out-of-pocket mean.

10. Respect

No list centered on life skills would be complete without including respect. We want our kids to feel empowered, capable and confident. What we dont want are self-absorbed, cocky, entitled kids. Teach them to respect others. You might even want to practice job interviews or certain life scenarios with your kids. Help them learn to express themselves with confidence and teach them to be respectful in doing so. Life will be easier that way.

It is a parent's job to teach and prepare their kids to be productive, positive members of society. Make sure they feel prepared to take care of themselves, and eventually a future family.
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How to avoid 'sharenting' and other paparazzi parenting habits
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A recent study revealed parents often spend up to two hours staging a single photo of his or her child to post online. - photo by Amy Iverson
Before having kids, some people just dont appreciate their friends baby posts. But after having a child of their own, three fourths of new parents jump right on the parental social media bandwagon. If you have become a member of this group, there are some rules to follow for posting responsibly.

Much of a parents worry is how to teach their children to use social media responsibly. We talk with our kids about privacy, oversharing, and setting restrictions on their devices to keep them safe. But parents themselves need to look in the digital mirror once in a while. Before having children, it doesnt take as much effort to think about what to post online. Its up to us to decide what we share about our own lives. But once you become a parent, there are many questions to think about regarding what is appropriate to post about your kids on social media.

In a recent survey, kids clothing subscription company Mac and Mia surveyed 2000 new parents to find out how they are documenting their kids lives on social media, and what concerns they may have.

First of all, people without children seem to feel a bit differently about the onslaught of baby pictures online than those who are parents. 18 percent of people say before they had kids, they were annoyed by their friends baby posts. But after having children of their own, 73 percent admit they post progress pictures of their little ones every single month.

Not only are new parents letting the world know each time their baby is a month older, but they are posting about their kids every few days or so. Men and women report they post 6-7 times per month about their baby.

And while 70 percent of new parents say the benefit of using social media is how easy it is to help family and friends feel involved, there are some downsides. Here are a few tips to avoid the pitfall of becoming paparazzi parents.

Dont miss the moment

In the Mac and Mia survey, some parents admitted to spending up to two hours to get the perfect shot of their baby. That seems a little extreme. New and old parents alike should be careful about spending so much time taking pictures and videos that they dont enjoy the moment. Years ago, I decided to never live an experience through my phone. A study by Linda Henkel, a psychology professor at Fairfield University in Connecticut, found that when people took pictures of objects in an art museum, they didnt remember the objects as well as if they simply observed them.

This photo-taking impairment effect can happen to parents as well. If we are so consumed by getting the perfect photo, we can miss out on the moment all together, and our memory of it will suffer.

Dont forget about privacy

60 percent of couples say they have discussed rules and boundaries for posting their babys photos, according to the Mac and Mia survey. Even so, men are 34 percent more likely to publish baby posts on public accounts. If parents are concerned about their childrens privacy, keeping photos off of public accounts is a given.

In the Washington Post, Stacey Steinberg, a legal skills professor at the University of Florida, and Bahareh Keith, a Portland pediatrician, wrote that sharing too much information about kids online puts them at risk. They write that all that sharenting can make it easier for data thieves to target out kids for identity theft. Check that your privacy settings are where they should be and never share identifying information like full names and birth dates.

Dont be paparazzi parents

36 percent of parents say they take issue when their childs photo is posted online by someone else. Responsible social media users will always ask permission before posting a photo of another child. But parents should also think about whether their own children will take issue with their own posted photos a few years down the road.

When parents are constantly snapping pictures and throwing them on social media, it can be easy to forget to pause and make sure the post is appropriate. I always use the billboard example with my kids. I ask them to picture whatever they are posting going up on a billboard in our neighborhood. If they are okay with that, then their post is probably fine. Parents should ask themselves this same question when posting about their children. But they should also ask themselves if their child would be OK with this post on a billboard in 15 years. If it would cause embarrassment or humiliation, it might be best to keep it private.

Once children reach an appropriate age, parents should include them in the process of deciding what pictures are OK to post. Researchers at the University of Michigan surveyed 10- to 17-year-olds and found children believe their parents should ask permission more than parents think they should. The kids in the survey said sharing happy family moments, or accomplishments in sports, school and hobbies is fine. But when the post is negative (like when a child is disciplined) or embarrassing (think naked baby pictures or messy hair), kids say to keep it off social media.
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