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Should your kid be the popular student?
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If you’re a parent, you may want to stop your kids from being popular.

If you’re a teen, you may want to stop trying to be the cool kid in your school.

Why? Well, there are a few reasons.

For one, being popular in high school can actually tremendously impact you later in life. Business Insider reported Thursday that teens who try to act older than they are during high school usually find themselves with drug and alcohol problems in the future.

"It appears that while so-called cool teens' behavior might have been linked to early popularity, over time, these teens needed more and more extreme behaviors to try to appear cool," Joseph P. Allen, professor of psychology at the University of Virginia, said in a statement. Allen was the lead author of the study that found this information.

But it’s not just about trying to act cool and being the popular student. Building relationships for simply superficial reasons can also impact you later in life, according to Business Insider

“Teens who become popular simply by hanging out with pretty people probably don't work as hard to develop meaningful relationships, according to the study,” Business Insider reported. “That behavior is carried into adulthood, to their detriment.”

On the other hand, from a financial standpoint, being a nerd can help you. High school nerds tend to make more money later in life, Slate reported in May. Males who earned between a 3.0 and 4.0 high school GPA tend to make anywhere between $40,000 and $50,000, whereas those with lesser GPAs make less than that amount, Slate reported.

“In any event, between this paper and work from Yale showing that high school popularity apparently has no influence on adult pay, the nerds appear to have social science firmly on the side of their life decisions,” Slate reported. “And the next time your snot-nosed teen refuses to do his homework, you can now show him why he should, in one graph.”

So being the popular or cool kid may not benefit people in the long run, but Tajuanna Farrow of The Detroit Free Press wrote in May that being the popular kid is not all bad.

“When you know a lot of people, you have more connections that you may not have if you are really quiet and to yourself,” Farrow wrote. “It makes things easier for you because your reputation comes before you.”

But Farrow also wrote that it might be best to focus on your future and then your reputation later on.

“Be the brighter student,” Farrow wrote. “Stay smart and don’t worry about friends and popularity. You will have plenty of time for that after graduation.”

Email: hscribner@deseretdigital.com Twitter: @herbscribner
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Have You Seen This? Street musician slays with clarinet
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Better than almost every face-melting guitar or drum solo. - photo by Facebook video screenshot

THE BIG EASY — Yeah, yeah, we all know that New Orleans is stuffed to the gills will incredible musicians.

But knowing that fact and then hearing that fact are two different things. You can step into any number of jazz clubs on any given night on Bourbon Street, and you’ll probably be impressed with virtually every act. Or you can sit at home on your comfy couch and watch this featured video.

In the video, you’ll see a woman who is in the groove. She is swinging hard, and wailing on her clarinet with a practiced expertise that makes it sounds so easy.

From note one you’ll be drawn in; your appreciation will grow with every second, and then your face will melt off when you realize how incredible she really is.

If you’ve never played a woodwind or a brass, you may not know everything that comes with a performance like this. Lung capacity and breath control are huge factors in keeping your notes clear and loud, and hitting those high notes is especially difficult.

So when this woman hits that high note and holds it for several seconds, you know you’re dealing with an exceptional musician. It means she has worked hard for years to develop skill on top of her natural talent, and we get to benefit.

It kinda makes you wonder how we let people get away with mumble rap and autotune when talent like this exists in the world.

I wish this video were longer, and I wish I had more information about this woman, but as it is, we’ll just have to appreciate the little flavor of New Orleans jazz posted by the Facebook group Clarinet Life.

Martha Ostergar is a writer who delights in the ridiculous that internet serves up, which means she's more than grateful that she gets to cruise the web for amazing videos to highlight for your viewing pleasure.
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