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8 answers to the questions you still have about sex
Because you deserve the best intimate life with your spouse. - photo by Lindsey Miller
Learning about sex is a process. You start learning when youre pretty young, but only the basics. Then, depending on how your parents talked about the touchy subject, what knowledge your friends shared with you or your own experiences later in life, you probably got a good idea about what sex means.

However, many women still have questions about intimacy, and thats totally normal. Here are eight expert answers to questions you might be wondering:

1. Why does intimacy feel good for my partner, but not for me?

According to the Womens Centre blog, men and women can reach their peak at different times, and it often happens faster for the male. Be patient and know that youll get there. Talk through the way youre feeling to help your spouse help you.

2. Why does it hurt?

For some women, intimacy can be painful which is never fun. It should be a way for you and your spouse to connect on a more intimate level, but its hard to do that when youre in pain. There are a few reasons why this happens, and according to gynecologist Octavia Cannon, physical and emotional problems can play into it.

She says that dryness and infections can cause a lot of pain, and she advises using a good lubricant. Pain can also occur if youre stressed, upset or just not in the mood. If the problem persists, talk to your gynecologist.

3. Why am I never in the mood for sex?

According to Sheryl Kingsberg, this is one of the most common sexual problems for women. When they dont have any physical or emotional problems that could be causing the low libido, they get nervous and have no idea how to fix it.

Kingsberg advises any woman struggling with this to talk to their doctor. She says, Dont suffer in silence we have many options to help you.

4. How can I be intimate with my spouse without actually having sex?

Sometimes you physically arent able to have sex. When this happens, its still important to stay intimate with you spouse. Healthy Women suggests making an effort to touch more, hold hands and act like youre a brand new couple. Keeping that physical contact will do amazing things for your relationship and help keep the excitement in your marriage.

5. Is it normal to have cramping after?

Cramping after intimacy is normal for many women, especially if the uterus has been disturbed. Nurse Lisa Stern says that cramping can happen because of the bladder or urinary tract. As always, its important to visit your doctor if the cramping keeps happening so you can figure out exactly why its happening and how to fix it.

6. How often do people usually have intimacy?

Dr. Laura says that studies show the average married American couple has sex one to two times per week. It varies depending on your life situation, but do whatever feels best for your relationship.

7. Is it normal to cry after?

Sex therapist Kimberly Resnick reassures that its totally normal to cry after having sex. Its a very emotional experience, and she says, Every woman experiences a sexual encounter through her own lens and attaches personal meaning and context to it. If these feelings prevent you from having sex or if they start to interfere with your life, however, make sure to talk to your doctor or a sex therapist.

8. Am I normal?

Sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman answers this question by saying, Yes, of course, youre normal! Every person has a different life when it comes to intimacy, and as long as no one is getting hurt and youre safe and comfortable, youre in a great place.

If you have questions about your sexual health, its so important to talk to your doctor about it. Dont be embarrassed, because you deserve answers. When you better know whats going on with your body and mind, youll be able to have a better intimate life with your husband.
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